please sleep baby!

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby jenn » Thu May 14, 2009 10:37 am

My sympathies.
My Natalia has never been a sleeper - EVER! She's 4 1/2 and still not a good sleeper and has NEVER napped! Even as an infant. *uhg*
I agree with Jackie, some babies are just not programed good sleepers. It's stressful and frustrating I know.. so please make sure that you get a break here to recharge your batteries. It's VERY important to have a happy and well rested mama.

One thing that comes to mind, because I had much success with my niece with one.. is one of those vibrating papasan baby deals. IT was heaven! Not sure if it was the vibrating or the incline.. but it worked wonders!

I send my best wishes that she turns around and becomes a great sleeper!!
Jenn

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby surefoott » Thu May 14, 2009 08:54 am

I have really decided that there are just some babies who don't sleep much! My oldest was that way. I thought I was doing something wrong; she slept for very short periods of time, and this is the kid who dropped her afternoon nap way before the age of 2. And guess what? Now SHE has a little one that also sleeps just short periods and at almot 6 months, is only taking a couple very short naps during the day. Payback maybe, I don't know! It is difficult when they are babies becuae you never get that 'long stretch' to rest, do house stuff or whatever. I used to have friends who would talk about their 3-yr-old taking a 2 hour afternoon nap and I would be "WHAT???!!!" My daughter wasn't a fussy baby, she just didn't sleep much; and didn't seem to require much sleep. She was my only one like that. I ended up hauling her around in her little seat so she could always be in the room I was in. I don't have any advice just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I agree though with whoever said that about as soon as you get her on some sort of sleep schedule, she will change it up a bit!!!! Good luck to you! And I love her name, BTW.

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby fancy19 » Tue May 12, 2009 01:19 pm

I remember from the 1st month in the NICU to the 2nd and 3rd month at home we were feeding her a certian amount of food and gradually increasing it but learned our lesson. She wouldn't sleep good for a while and then we just fed her till she stopped....helped the sleeping and made us realize we probably wern't feeding her enough!
We also transitioned froma swaddle to the sleep sacks and she loves them.

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby joker » Tue May 12, 2009 12:07 am

ok, I think we have progress! I started a new feeding schedule so that she is eating more during the day and evening and the last feeding is at 1am. She is basically sleeping from 1:30-6am now and is only waking up once in between, but not to eat, just to fuss and goes right back to sleep once I pick her up...so that feels like a little bit of progress! At least I am getting a pretty good solid four-five hours in a row!

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby trish » Sat May 09, 2009 02:52 pm

Ali was many months old - maybe at least 6 I would guess - before she slept 4-5 hours straight. I remember this because my 1st was sleeping 12 hours straight through at 5 months. I have come to realize she was the exception rather than the rule since my 2nd took over 2 years to sleep 12 hours straight through. LOL!

You've gotten good advice so I don't have much to add. Just try and hang in there!! It seems like it lasts f.o.r.e.v.e.r when you are going through it but it does soon pass.

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby aundapenner » Sat May 09, 2009 01:45 pm

Thanks Crystal! It makes sense. DH is in charge of swaddling - she breaks out of mine in 2 seconds flat. He said he just started doing what you suggested because he noticed the blanket sometimes covering her mouth.

The only thing they told us here about SIDS prevention is back sleeping and stuff in the bed.

We also put the seahorse at the foot of her bed.

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby hols537 » Sat May 09, 2009 06:27 am

Jonathan had some sleep trouble after he was home a few weeks. I learned that he really liked things that vibrated. His bassinet had a vibrate function and I would use that. It was on a 10 minute timer so sometimes I'd just pull the bassinet close to my bed and reach over and restart it so I could get some rest. For a long time, he was on a schedule where he slept hard from like 8-12 and then was up frequently, but that passed and I just learned to go to bed early.

Like some others have said, I did whatever was necessary for us to get sleep for the first few months.

I strongly suggest the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth. Both my boys are wonderful sleepers now and I credit the advice in that book. What I like best is that it isn't just a set of instructions, it helps you understand what is going on developmentally with their sleep so you can set your expectations and determine what you can try. He even acknowledges the differences for preemies and colicky babies.

Here's a short list of things you might try:
-vibrating machine
-sleeping in the swing
-white noise (Jonathan has a strong preference for nature sounds or heartbeat sounds. A fan works too.)
-keep your level of activity VERY low during the night (I never talked to the boys at night, changed their diapers only if necessary, didn't turn on lights, etc.)
-let daddy listen to the baby at night and get you when she needs to be fed (like Alice suggested. We did the same and I got much better sleep between feedings. I also put daddy in charge of wakings not requiring feeding - although those were few and far between in the early days)

Has the pedi given you instructions to wake her at night for feedings? Once Alexander had proven he was gaining weight at home, he was allowed to go as long as he wanted at night and to wake him for feedings during the day only. I was able to do the same with Jonathan too and I think it made a difference.

It will get better!!

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby crystalw » Sat May 09, 2009 03:36 am

Alice.. swaddling below the armpits is I guess part of the SIDS prevention tips.. or at least that is what I was told in the NICU.. no stomach sleeping, no stuffed animals, no blankets above armpits. But I do put his seahorse in the cradle with him. I put it at his feet.

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby aundapenner » Sat May 09, 2009 02:36 am

We just received the glowing seahorse as a gift and I love it! It's a soft light and subtle music.

Sofia had her days and nights mixed up for a long time (at the time it felt like forever). When I asked if I should encourage her to be more awake during the day (which sounds like the advice you've been given) our midwife said it won't do any good and that she would eventually switch her days and nights. Trying to keep a baby awake will only upset both of you so IMO not worth it. And, it doesn't work so why add more frustration to sleep deprivation.

Some of the best advice I received this time around was for the first 2 months it was okay to do whatever it took to get decent sleep - for ALL of us.

I found that I woke with every little peep from Sofia and remembered doing the same thing with Henry. For at least 3 weeks, DH slept in the guest room with Sofia in her cradle, waking me only for feedings. Then, as my mom was visiting, we slowly transitioned to her being in our room.

She's 10 weeks old yesterday and I can promise you that she's sleeping MUCH better. Henry never slept this well!!! She's out like a light from about 10 at night until 3am almost every night and then up again at 6-7ish. Of course, writing this means she'll change it all up.

Seriously, as soon as you get used to a schedule/their routine, they change it up on ya! Mothering is a HUGE lesson in both patience and flexibility - two of my greatest weaknesses!!!

Oh, one more thing. Sofia hated being swaddled in the beginning too. But my MIL found a trick that we now use and works. We swaddle her (above the armpits - why should't we, I'm curious), hold her belly to belly (at an angle) and shush her while rocking in very small motions. If Sofia's tired but full and can't sleep, works like a charm.

Now with Henry, nothing worked. He had serious overstimulation issues as an infant that he's still not completely outgrown. I was told it was due to his preemieness and one of his systems (nervous perhaps?) not being fully developed.

(((HUGS))) I promise she (and you) will figure out a routine that works!

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Re : please sleep baby!

Postby crystalw » Fri May 08, 2009 10:48 pm

have you tried giving her more milk? Jack will sleep for about 4 hours but usually not unless he is in bed with me! He eats between 80-90cc's and has since about 3 weeks of age. he can't hold his paci in either because of his cleft so sometimes I just have to hang my arm over the cradle and hold it in. and also he has a glowing seahorse that plays music and he loves that at night to go to sleep. is your room to cold ?? if jack is cold he wants to be held. Also.. lol where does she sleep during the day? They say not to put them in their bassinet or cradles in the day. They say to keep their napping place different than bedtime.. Jack sleeps mostly in the swing or on the couch during the day. Just giving ya some ideas.. sorry im not much help..


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