With my first daughter I couldn't nurse her either. It took too much of her "growing" energy.
I was pumping, adding it to neosure and the whole process took up so much time. I don't know how you are doing it with 4!!
It was like more than an hour per feeding and then it was time to do it all again.
I was in tears all the time, so was she when I was trying to get her to latch on after 3 weeks of gavage, and bottle feeds. It was awful.
I had tons of b/feeding support, but what I needed was permission to "bag it". I eventually got it from my pediatrician.
I have a wonderful bond with my daughter, no weeeker than I have with the baby I am currently breastfeeding successfully.
Her health and MINE(sleep,etc.included) were the priority.
I hope no one jumps all over me for writing this....I know the importance of breastfeeding, But, there are exceptions.
Plus my husband got to get in on the wonderful feeding experience.
I was offered some relief and sleep!!!, when he or my mother were around.
Do what is best for you, but don't feel like a failure if you make the choice to formula feed!
DH, Chris, 33
Mama & Daddy to:
Isabella Sofia,1/02/03 born @ 33.5 weeks at 3 lbs,6oz., 16". GD,
Pre-E,& borderline HELLP.
Catalina Amelia,5/29/04 born @ 36.2 weeks,4 lbs.,12oz.,16"