Wow, I have been in your shoes before, but we were in the NICU when all of the real scary stuff was happening. I am glad you mentioned you had monitors, it sounds like Anastacia has some scary apnea. I know reflux can cause this. You may want to talk to your doc about elevating her head when she sleeps. We put Max on his tummy to sleep, and that worked really well for us. He always oxygenated better when he was on his tummy. He was on montiors and oxygen too, so no worry about SIDS for us.
By the way, do you just have an apnea monitor, or did the doc also get you an oximitor? We found the oximitor to be much more beneficial than the apnea monitor. That thing drove us crazy! So if you don't have one, look into getting one. Our insurance covered most of the expense. You can also buy them second hand on ebay.
I hope there is no more episodes.
DH, John (36)
Max, 1/20/03, 25 wks, 534g. (IUGR), severe PE