Somebody hold me up!

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wcarder
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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby wcarder » Mon Sep 13, 2004 06:01 am

Aww, Jennie....you're gonna' be fine. (; Jai sounds like she was made for preschool! What a big kiddo!!! But at any rate, I do feel your pain. You want your kids to be happy and have a good time, but at the same time, it KILLS to learn that they don't need you EVERY second, like we always thought. ): Noodle started CHEERLEADING this weekend ~ and I almost died watching her, the little diva....ug. She will certainly be the death of me come high school....(;

So sorry to hear about your step-son. Maybe Jaiden can give him a good talking to....

On to week TWO, right??? Good Luck!

Wendy

DD~ Kenzie Celeste, 30 weeks GA, severe PE

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby jenn » Fri Sep 10, 2004 07:38 pm

Day 2!
Well how can I put this...
SHE DITCHED ME!
I got a kiss, and a goodbye.
Then the teacher gave me THAT look, like..are ya' going now? Or is this gonna' be another mommy linger day??? [B)]
So I left.
I about died on the spot.
So like any girl with emotions, I shopped.
Boy was that weird. No chasing Jai, playing hide and go seek under clothes racks, and no tantums for unnessasary goods.
I of course shopped for her...new school duds!
She's gonna' style next week.
Ok- so she's eatting snack! You heard me- EATTING SNACK!!!
but she's not a juice drinker so the teacher gives her water which she loves.
And she used the potty 2x with no help!
Did the whole 9 yrds solo!
*SOB*
*SNIFF*
*WHIMPER*
She didn't even want to leave!
And she has friends!!!
I got a social butterfly!
So blah blah blah...
She's just amazing!
My proudest moments!
Thanks for holding me up this week as we close on a great note!
Now if only it can rub off on the others...her older half bro got suspended his 2nd day of 1st grade!!!
So time to focus on other things and let Jai just grow up.

Lots of love to all!

Jennie (25)
Shad (29)
Jaidyn (3) @30 wks
Severe PE/HELLP
2lb. 12oz.
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jaid/

Natalia Rosse
Due: 11.25.04
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/n/nataliarosse/

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby jenn » Fri Sep 10, 2004 09:41 am

Sandra,
Lucky you for having a network of friends and family to count on. As for us, it's me or daycare for Jai. Made it easy for me to choose. ;o)
Though I do miss working, if that's what I should call it...being a radio dj joking, talking, music..it was more like a daily party :o)
But I still wouldn't trade it for being home with my lil' Jai.
Every morning it's my name she calls when she awakes...I melt!
Best job in the world (to me)!
Send Samara my luv.

Wendy,
Hola' chicka'.
So Jai is going M,W,F...so in a few hours I'll be here crying my eyes out again :o(
But she's fine- go figure.
I might try to go shopping while she's at school and see how the other half lives ;o) There's a sale I can't pass up at Mervyn's.
So I'll update when school is out.
Good thing it's Friday, two days to recover before Monday :op
Sending my luv!

Erin,
I couldn't agree with you more!
I for one love being at home! huge homebody.
My mom on the other hand...Sometimes I wonder if she'll last throught weekend at home with us.
I've learned how it takes a special type of person to do either.
Ya' gotta' do what works for you - right?!
Congrats to you for having a happy balance with your busy school, work and home life! How do you do it?! ;o)

Jennie (25)
Shad (29)
Jaidyn (3) @30 wks
Severe PE/HELLP
2lb. 12oz.
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jaid/

Natalia Rosse
Due: 11.25.04
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/n/nataliarosse/

http://www.ofoto.com/BrowsePhotos.jsp?Ucollid=182798555105&Uphotoid=588409555105&collid=182798555105

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby deerhart » Fri Sep 10, 2004 08:46 am

I on the other hand, would go nuts as a stay at home mom. In fact, when I was staying home part time with Alex (while pregnant with Mason) I actually spent less quality time with him then I did when I was working.

A lot of it is simply personalities, some people operate better in different enviroments. Personally, staying home every day would and did drive me to be crazy and depressed. I needed another output for myself each day which I wasn't getting.

I have met people who can't beleive that I would even consider working when I have children (let alone start law school and another career), but what they don't seem to understand (simply because they were so unbending they didn't want to) is that by doing that it made me happy and me being happy meant that I was a better mom then when I was home and miserable.

I think the whole debate over which is better is pretty stupid, because the studies aren't done correctly. What needs to be studied is how children with mom's who are HAPPY with their situation do versus those that are unhappy do.

Erin

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby wcarder » Fri Sep 10, 2004 06:57 am

Oh, I know it would be a tough decision....financially, emotionally and otherwise. There truly are pro's and con's to both situations, but I really feel that if you are able to stay home with your littles, you should. My goal is to have a baby and QUIT MY JOB!!!! I think being a mom is the most important job, but for now, it's just not doable. My husband just started his career, and I have to work until he makes a little more money....*sigh* I mean, I really like my job, but I hate feeling like someone else gets more QT with my girl than I do. It's torture. However, i don't think SAHM's and WOHM's should battle against eachother....and I don't resent ANYONE who gets to raise there children full time.

And Mel, I didn't take your statement that way at all....I guess I just have a lot of guilt these days because I don't get to be with Kenzie as much as I use to...as much as I WANT to...as much as she needs me to, you know? And thanks for the applause - it was a rough road...but, you'll just have to buy the book because no thread could contain all of hurdles noodle and i overcame....(; But it was well worth every part.

So, JENNIE - is Jai a five day a weeker, or three days a week? Is she loving it? Making friends? How is the potty party going? any more accidents at school? don't worry about too much about it. Sounds like she's adjusting REALLY well to the big change, and YOU are doing a GREAT JOB sharing (: ~ I always hate sharing my noodle too.... (: It's good that Jai is doing this now - to kind of enter her into big girlhood before the baby gets here...I think it will really help her feel like a BIG SISTER, rather than being jealous that she is not the baby anymore. (hopefully, right?)

Well, keep me updated!

Wendy

DD~ Kenzie Celeste, 30 weeks GA. severe PE

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby samarasmom » Thu Sep 09, 2004 05:41 pm

YOu ladies are scaring Me I am in the middle of making the decision to stay at home since my 5 yr old is having some problems that I feel that I need to address and dont want others to deal with. Also I would like the quality time. I will make sure to ask for time off though from the kids too. I have a great network of family and friends so Im sure they will take over once in a while

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Michael Abron ( fiance)
Elijah Kristopher Michael Abron ( 43 wks no complications) 5/6/99
Isaiah Liam Abron ( 37 wks PE and Preterm labor) 3/25/02
Samara Juliyana Abron ( 35 wks PIH and poss PE ) 7/21/04

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby meljoi » Thu Sep 09, 2004 03:01 pm

wendy...
Please don't think that I was jumping on a soapbox! I was not implying that you were envious in the respect that it was a picnic.......
so I apologize if it seemed as though I was saying it like that.
That's great that you were able to be with the noodle when she came home and for as long as you were able to. I stand up an applaud you incredibly doing all of that by yourself......and single mommying it for that long......YOU ROCK!
After a year alone with P by myself......I was going to pull every hair outta my head.


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mama to Peyton John 12/04/00 (severe pre-e @ 38wks)
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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby jenn » Thu Sep 09, 2004 02:49 pm

Wendy,
I beg Shad daily to switch me jobs! Ok I don't beg, I PLEAD! Somehow I still lose. ;o)
But it is a sacrifice to stay home as well as an honor. On one hand I won't let anyone touch Jai with a ten foot pole- so someone's gotta' take care of the lil' stinker. And then the down side is that we can't afford to live outside of my parents home right now. Granted they have made it so nice and comfy for us now, who'd wanna' leave ;o) I threaten them daily I'm never leaving :op
And Aimee's right, we are all a tad envious of each other.
Send Noodle my love.

Aimee,
People have actually debated this? How crazy. And only Dr. Phil could make a show of it ;o)
Sorry I missed it, but it's a fight over the channels here 24/7- Jai always wins! :o(

Mada,
Thanks, it was a giant leap! The after shock is gone and I'm looking forward to tomorrow (2nd day of school) I promised to do a drop off this time and not linger like sad lost puppy.
God help me! And yes I will so enjoy some bonding time for me and Nattie-Bean.
Guess I won't be lost and lonely for long.
BTW, I forgot I was gonna' email you...expect one soon.
(about Dr. p)

Lots of love to all!


Jennie (25)
Shad (29)
Jaidyn (3) @30 wks
Severe PE/HELLP
2lb. 12oz.
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jaid/

Natalia Rosse
Due: 11.25.04
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/n/nataliarosse/

http://www.ofoto.com/BrowsePhotos.jsp?Ucollid=182798555105&Uphotoid=588409555105&collid=182798555105

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby mada » Thu Sep 09, 2004 01:12 pm

Jenn,
SO glad that Jai is loving her preschool. I know it's so hard when you drop them off the first time but it's kind of cool to get involoved with their little preschools and have some time to yourself. And when Miss Matalia shows up, you can have baby time as well!! I think this is a great giant awesome leap for the both of you!! Congrtas!!

Mada Harpster-moderator for pregnant again

Sam 6-29-00 36weeks P.E.
Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.

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Re : Somebody hold me up!

Postby aimeejane » Thu Sep 09, 2004 12:14 am

Thanks, Wendy...it's a TOUGH decision, and it seems that no matter which way you go, you're going to be resented by someone on the other side! (Not you...your post just reminded me of all the debates I've seen on it.)

Dr. Phil had a show on it recently - SAHM's vs. WOHM's. VERSUS? What is with us as women? Shouldn't we all be on the same side, fighting for the rights of our kids and for our own rights to do what we WANT, no matter what that want is????

Sorry to rant...I love the support here. We're all just a tad envious of each other. No one's nasty. It's GREAT!!

Aimee
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Ds Nicky - 3/24/00 (28 wks - eclampsia)
Ds Kalen - 7/10/03 (36 weeks - preeclampsia)


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