by maxs mom (594 Posts), Sat Oct 02, 2004 09:41 pm
You have every right feeling the way you do, you had far from a perfect PG, so I am sure it still hurts. And it sounds like you are handling it well, by just grinning and bearing it (and of course venting here to women who can share your pain)
For me, I cried when I had to go to Babies R Us after Max was born and in the NICU. All I saw was PG woman everywhere and I felt so awful for my bad luck. But now 20 months later, I have accepted the fact that I am not one of the lucky ones to have a perfect PG, and I may never have one. Why? I don't know and may never know. But as long as I have my beautiful Max, I don't care. I couldn't have had a better kid even if he went full term, so I feel so lucky. And a part of me realizes I am just that much better a mom because I went through such a hard time when Max was born. I can't imagine any of my friends with FT babies feeling the gratitude I feel every day to have Max with me and DH and that he is happy and healthy.
The only thing that kind of annoys me is when PG woman complain that they are so ready to have the baby out of them, sometimes as early as 6 months. It doesn't upset me, but I always think to myself, "Hmmm, I know if you got your wish, you wouldn't be happy"
DH, John (36)
Max, 1/20/03, 25 wks, 1lb. 3ozs. (IUGR), severe PE
#2 is on the way, EDD at 36.5 weeks is 3/24/04