Deciding to medicate can be very very hard and there are lots of factors that can play into it, age, behavior etc.. It took my aunt and uncle almost 6 years to finally decide to medicate their son and once they made that decision, when their daughter started showing the same signs they felt more comfertable putting her on medication.
As for the whole "normal" child. It simply doesn't exist. Instead of looking at it from everyone else's child is normal, we have had to look at it as well what is normal for us. In my family it is NOT normal for a child to be quiet, calm, well behaved, following every direction given to them. Instead, it is normal to be loud, stubborn, pushy, demanding, overactive, fun loving, curious, and eager. There is no way I could or should expect my children to be anything less.
I also find it extremely interesting watching my youngest son do the same things Alex did at his age, yet because he doesn't have a language delay they aren't considered signs of other problems. my youngest son waves his arms and spins himself, toe walks, has ritualistic behavior, etc.. to an extent FAR FAR beyond what Alex ever did (in fact he never spun or toe walked) yet for Alex they were all signs of problems and not just normal toddler/preschooler behavior.
It took me a long time to learn to enjoy my oldest son. he's a hard kid to deal with and he makes my life very complicated at times, but in all honesty he is so well worth it and seeing his progress and how far he has come has just been amazing.
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