After the baby is born... I want more!!!

So, the baby's born, what comes next? Discuss your postpartum and parenting concerns here.
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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby michelle » Mon Dec 29, 2003 02:52 pm


Again I am so happy that others of you feel the way I do about another baby. I am 40 and I spoke to my doctor about the chances of PE again. He said I did wonderfully this time and he is more worried about downs than PE if I were to become pregnant again. In my heart I believe everything would be fine but all of you know the real risks. I am so wonderfully happy with Travler I would love to have another baby to complete our family. Please pray for me that I will be wise and try to make the best decision.

How do you attach a photo. I want to attach one of Travler. He is a real cutie.


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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby momathelete » Sat Dec 20, 2003 08:45 pm

Michelle,

Oh to have a baby sibling for Travler. If I were you, I would be getting the ball rolling now. DOes age factor into it since you are 40? I have no clue, but I think it does. I am 36 and we are giving it a full year from Ella's birth to decide if we want to go that route for sure. I don't think the baby desire will even diminish...



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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby catherine » Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:23 pm

Michelle, you are not nuts... siblings are a wonderful thing for a kid. I do understand that you don't have a huge amount of time to decide.... college tuition before retirement anyone? What harm in investigating?

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby catherine » Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:22 pm

Michelle, you are not nuts... siblings are a wonderful thing for a kid. I do understand that you don't have a huge amount of time to decide.... college tuition before retirement anyone? What harm in investigating?

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby 5thtymachrm » Fri Dec 19, 2003 07:58 pm

I say go for the adoption, there are so many poor homeless little angels out there in desperate need of a home. I am foster licensed due to taking care of my nephew in the past and know that I wouldn't be able to deal with the children coming out of those situations but regular adoption sounds wonderful.

I have actually thought of surrogacy for a second child maybe in 4 years. I am not sure how it all works or is paid for and if we need to save up all the cash for it etc. It seems it bit scary to me but I dunno. I do know I don't think I ever want to be pregnant again, the past nine months were * and I know that I will not forget it. I have no idea how those of you did it with several pregnancies, I really give you a lot of credit, I just cannot put myself through it again. I have my little beautiful angel and I am thanking God on a daily basis for her and for my life.

I don't really want to get my tubes tied just yet though it was suggested by my OB and oncologist. I am just going for a long term birth control option but is reversible if for some reason I go crazy and decide to do this again in several years, I am just not ready to completely let go yet.

Good luck everyone with whatever you decide and keep us updated on how it all works[:D]

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby amyk » Fri Dec 12, 2003 01:22 pm

I guess I hadn't gotten around to changing my signature block...oops.

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby amyk » Fri Dec 12, 2003 01:20 pm

Hey there! It's been awhile since I've checked in...you know how it is...with these preemies, they think they are entitled to act like newborns for MONTHS!
I'm glad to see that there are others who already want another. I was beginning to think I was crazy, but I definitely want one more kiddo. I have had an unbearably long recovery and I feel like my entire body is breaking down, but my doctor seems to think it is doable although he has advised letting my body take a break. (I think my insurance company would drop me if I even muttered under my breath that I would like another.) I do think part of it is hormonal but I know I will never get my tubes tied even if I decide that this is it. The finality of it all is what would bother me most.
To those of you looking at adoption, I say go for it! A co-worker of mine just brought his daughter in here about 10 minutes ago that they adopted from China and she is so sweet and cute as a button!

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby michelle » Tue Dec 09, 2003 02:18 pm

I am so thankful I read your post. Travler is only 10 weeks old and already I am wanting another child. My husband is afraid for us to try again because we lost Travler's older brother Hudson 2 years ago due to pre-term PE. Travler got here with no major probs but was early arriving at 34.5 weeks. I guess we are a little afraid to rock the boat.

I have been checking into adopting. I almost felt like I was rushing things and ppl would not think I was taking time to enjoy by precious baby. That is not it at all. I am 40 and my husband is 47. We do not have the luxury of time. I do not want Travler it grow up alone.

I have been keeping these thoughts to myself for fear of my family and friends not understanding.

Bottom line ... I love being a Mom and I have had to work harder than many women and I want another child. If I could have my way I would like for Travler to have a little sister.

Do I sound like a goof?


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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby ileana » Wed Nov 26, 2003 05:54 am

I think Sharel must be travelling for Thanksgiving... Here's the link

http://forums.adoption.com/

Have a Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby jennie » Tue Nov 25, 2003 07:48 pm

Michelle, I too feel the same way, in that I do want another child, but I DONT want to have it myself. I loved my pregnancies, up to the 35 week point, but I have always had the urge to adopt. I want to adopt a child no more than 3 from the foster to adopt program. It is risky because those children had a rough start but there is risk in any adoption and having your own children. I dont feel like I need a baby since I have had that. I really feel the need to help a child and bring it in to a loving home. There is a country song about a little girl who sees her father kill her mother then kill himself and then gets adopted by a family and it makes me cry every time. I am going to wait a few years, at least 4 or 5 and let the kids help in the decision making. However, I do not regret getting my tubes tied. There are so many children that need a home, and I have been lucky enough to experience childbirth and breastfeeding ect.

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