After the baby is born... I want more!!!

So, the baby's born, what comes next? Discuss your postpartum and parenting concerns here.
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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby ileana » Tue Nov 25, 2003 07:17 pm


We want to adopt as well, but we are still flirting with the possibility of trying again.

We are very scared, and I want to give birth and hold my baby and breastfeed and all the other stuff... this IS hormonally reacting [:D].
I am ok now and I did lots of tests and its all ok. Even my protein in urine, that looked like a problem two weeks ago, is gone now, so I'm confused. I should be happy that I am healthy, but I wish I knew what was wrong; if you know your enemies you can watch them. Could it have been just a misfortune? I don't believe it after seeing the stories on this web site... not as early as it happened to me.

We want to adopt from Romania. I am from Romania , and we thought a Romanian child would benefit from growing in a family that is related to his/her birth country. We did not start anything yet, however, we need to decide when and how.

Sharel (Angelical) is trying to adopt from the foster care system. She posted links to an adoption web site with a forum... I'm sure she will chime in tomorrow or next week with details.

Keep us posted with your decisions.

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Angel stillborn 24w p-e 2/17/03

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Re : After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby catherine » Tue Nov 25, 2003 06:53 pm

I have to say that emotionally I'm right there with you Michelle. I cannot believe that the past 5 months have flown by so fast. I hate to put away stuff that Chloe has grown out of because I won't be passing it along to another baby. I never felt this way after Lucy, even though we decided in the hospital (once I came around) that we were done!!! I think that it comes from the finality of having tied those tubes. I'm sure that I wouldn't feel this way if Dave had done the big V, although the result would be the same. I knew too that this was the right thing to do, I don't think that my uterus would have handled another baby at all well, and I feel that for me, preeclampsia is probably a lottery, I get it or I don't , great if I don't but potentially lethal if I do.

I'm not sure about adopting. At this point in our lives I think that with three kids and two jobs and tenure yet to get, we are maxed out. Probably by the time that we feel more secure and in control we'll be too old to be acceptable adoptive parents. That is one of the great things about making your own, you get more control (god willing) over their acquisition than external agencies.

I'm hoping that the baby craving passes and I keep trying to project to the next phase of our lives and family when we're all continent and all intelligible. I have a co-worker just a few years older than myself with teenage twin girls. They are darling attractive girls and boy... will that ever be a new stage of our lives!!!!

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Finn (6)
Lucy (2)
Chloe (7/2/03) PS. Laura do you remember that I projected that Michelle and I would eventually end up discussing just this topic!! Agh, if I could only be so prescient about other things.

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After the baby is born... I want more!!!

Postby momathelete » Tue Nov 25, 2003 06:16 pm

Sadly, I had my tubes tied since this was my third bout with pre-e. My dh and I agreed that it would be the best decision concerning my health. Now that Ella is almost 5 months, I am wanting this not to end. That is normal, right?

We were at church and I started talking about how I was looking forward to having 4 and now that I cannot, I want to adopt. Dh said that he was feeling the same way. So, we are going to wait a year just to have the honeymoon of her be over, although with Lainey it took until she was 2 for me to think that I should not have more and by then Ella was born (she is just a wild spitfire). So, we are starting to look into adoption. Anyone else in my boat?

Actually, we are looking at foreign adoption. Before we had children, we both had a burning desire to adopt a girl from India. Anyway, when I mentioned adoption to dh again, he said, now we can get our girl in India. So, that is what I think we will do.

Am I just hormonally reacting to this? Does anyone else feel this way?

mom to Cole Thomas -former 28.5 weeker (3-5-99, 3 lbs)due to HELLP and Madelaine Grace "Lainey" -former 29.5 (10-11-01, 3lbs 4oz)weeker due to Pre-E and had PIH with Elisabeth Rose (Ella) -37 weeker,born June 30th 2003 weighing 5 lbs 12 oz and beautiful.

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