Potty training woes

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby michaela » Fri Mar 12, 2004 06:48 pm

I just went through this with my daughter. She was just about 2 1/2 and I tried everything you guys are talking about. I missed that "window of opportunity" everyone always talks about, so it got to the point where it was sheer willpower and who had more. I finally broke down and took John Rosemonds advice and took her diaper and panties off and let her go!! (We have new carpet so this was a HUGE step!!) Well she went once on the floor and that was it. She took about a week and a 1/2 and she was completely potty trained. She wore a diaper at night for another two weeks and that was it. I also use cloth diapers but that didn't seem to make her train any faster. I would say this is a fluke but it has worked for 2 other friends of mine that were at wits end!! It's called "Naked and75$" You can imagine what the 75$ is for. Luckily we didn't need it. Try it you might have luck with it. I never had any luck with the reward system. Let us know how it goes!!

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby pugmommy7 » Wed Mar 10, 2004 08:45 pm

I love the incentive idea.
It does remind me of a funny story that I'll share.

I was at Babies r' us with my best friend and her 3 year old daughter.
She asked if I would take her daughter with me to the ladies room on the next of my 50 trips.
I said "of course", she did her thing, and then waited for me outside the stall.
A little girl next to us had successfully pee'd on the potty for what sounded like the first time. Her mother was thrilled, she said "Oh kayla, I am so proud of you! wait till we get home! you will get to tell Daddy and get an M&M and everything!"

To which, immediately my friend's daughter responded, "OH Aunt Jen, I am so proud of you for peeing on the potty! great job!!"
Totally matching the lady's enthusiasm.
It was adorable! And hilarious!
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Re : Potty training woes

Postby mada » Wed Mar 10, 2004 07:43 am

Yup, It goes back to the ol' Freudian concept!! Children feel control through their bathroom needs...One thing I did notice is when Sam was mad at us, (for getting a time out or whatever) he pees in his pants!!! Anyway, oh well, I guess different things work for different kids[:)]

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby catherine » Wed Mar 10, 2004 06:26 am

We have it Mada... it didn't work for Finn at all! Lucy doesn't like it either. I would bear in mind our old and pretty wacky ped's advice, "don't let your kid know how important this is for you...kids have so little control, except over what they eat, where and when the pee and sleep..that's why they are the biggest fights."

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby mada » Wed Mar 10, 2004 06:15 am

Okay girls, I think I found the answer!!!! I found a video called "It's Potty Time!" Pretty entertaining for the little people, kind of annoying, but no worse than Wiggles or whatever you watch. I started letting Sam and Ben (who is 28 mo.'s too) watch it whenver they wanted, They really like it!! Sam has basically been dry for almost a week and Ben always wants to go sit on the potty! He doesn't usually pee, but he is totally getting the concept. I am just focusing on Sam more since he is 3 and a half!!!! My mom actually found the video at the right start.
Website is www.rightstart.com if anyone is insterested!!!

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby deerhart » Tue Mar 09, 2004 09:39 pm

LOL Catherine
Alex did that for almost a year and a half. I think the thing that has really gotten him is that we tell him if he is wearing diapers its bed time and send him to bed. That has seemed to keep him motivated to wearing underpants!

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby catherine » Tue Mar 09, 2004 09:04 pm

Matching you all the way there Michelle. Lucy has had one good day and then nothing since. I thought that she'd pee for stickers, she is so addicted but nope. That doesn't mean that we don't have to make a zillion trips to the potty, at which time her naked butt brushes the rim for maybe... oh... a milisecond... after which she announces that she's all done, gets up, trips over her underwear and flushes... oh a million times.... I've given up, I'm going to wait a month and try again then.

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby momathelete » Tue Mar 09, 2004 08:22 pm

I have to laugh at this string since I am in the midst of potty training Lainey who is 28 months). I have a timer set to go off every 15 minutes and she STILL had 5! accidents today. The worst part is that I set baby Ella right in the middle of one of the wet spots and she now smells like pee. My incentive was that she can use toilet paper to wipe herself (she really wants to!) Anyway, she says it hurts when she goes, but oddly it doesn't hurt when she pees in her underwear. OY! I am about ready to give up and try again in a few months! I had an awful day today. You know it is bad when you get on Monster.com and start looking for jobs so you can put your kids in daycare!!! It was fun to look and fantasize about dressing up, intense meetings, hard thinking!! OK, back to trying to get the squash spit up off of my shirt!



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Re : Potty training woes

Postby deerhart » Thu Mar 04, 2004 10:07 am

Alex will be 4 at the end of April. We tried potty training him for over a year and a half, but he refused. He woke up one Sunday In January and decided it was time and then started to hold his urine and would wear underwear.

He does get extremely engrossed in things, especially at home thus it gets harder for him to remember to go on his own. He also has to be pretty much unclothied to sit on the potty *sigh*.

But, when we are out in public, he seems to be a bit more concious of it and will state he has to go so he doesn't have an accident.

One of the things we have really tried is not to punish him for having an accident, but also to reenforce that peeing and pooing in his pants is yucky, hoping a little bit of peer pressure will help push him along.
Right now it has pushed him to demand to be changed when he poops his pants, but hasn't gotten him to try to poo in the potty yet (he will come running in starting to cry goinging I'm stinky, I'm poopy)

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Re : Potty training woes

Postby mada » Thu Mar 04, 2004 06:38 am

Erin,
That's the thing...I have had Sam in underwear for like 8 months!!! He does wear a pull up at night but I am not worried about that right now....My husband all the way to his great grandfather wet their beds until they were like 6..at night so....I don't want to pressure him there. He will absolutley go pee and poop if I keep him bare booty...I will have him home in a t-shirt only and he knows when he has to go and he runs to the potty by himself and does his business. The minute I put anything on him, underwear, or even sweats(no underwear) he will get involved with something and won't bother to use the bathroom!!! Arghh!!!!
How old is Alex? I am just getting worried because Sam will be 4 at the end of June!!!!

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