Sherry honey, don't kill yourself here! The other kids are going to do fine, they need to learn to make some space in their lives for their little sister anyway. I used to get Lucy to bring me some tissues or some water in a bottle when I was nursing, then she felt like she was contributing. One day I said, "do you think that we should give Chloe some milk?", I was a little nervous that she was jealous because she'd only stopped nursing about 4-5 months before. She looked up at me, real serious, nodded, then ran off into the kitchen... came back with her sippy cup!
The other little tip I can offer, pump after you nurse, Anna needs more practice with you, than you do with the pump. I used to leave the bottle with trumpets attached, all set up in the fridge. Then I'd pump what was left over, easy enough for me luckily, then I'd wipe the trumpet portion with a piece of kitchen towel, an alcohol wipe and then pop a sandwich bag over the top. Back into the fridge until next time. That saves a little of the endless washing... no bacteria are going to grow. I never sterilized either, hot water straight from the tap with washing up liquid is certainly sufficient for cleaning, air dry.
Lastly, a nursing mom is exempt from changing diapers... did we not tell you this? That is what DH is for, that and cheering you on and helping when you're trying to get the latch thing going. Mine used to complain about how useless he felt but he changed a bunch of diapers in the middle of the night and he was a great cheering section, helping me wake them up, tickling their feet so they wouldn't doze off mid-boob and just holding them when I just felt like they weren't ever going to get the hang of latching on. He was always looking to see if "everything" was stuffed in right.
Good luck sweetie,
Mom to Finn, Lucy (preeclampsia and HELLP) and Chloe.
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