by jmom08 (486 Posts), Fri Nov 06, 2009 05:51 pm
This isn't PE related, and I hate to complain about my DH, but I don't know what to do and am hoping some of you have wisdom for me!!
DH grew up in a family & culture that is permissive of what my family would consider poor behavior in little boys (boys = little kings). We've had many discussions about this, and DH agrees in theory with my views on discipline, but in practice, he just won't carry through. He either does nothing when DS acts out, or he uses time out inconsistently. I know acting out is normal at age 3 1/2, but we're really having trouble. I can't get DH to read parenting books (claims he doesn't have time), can't even get him to watch supernanny. He might listen to CDs on a commute, but I haven't found audiobooks of the books that have been recommended to me.
Then, today when I picked DS up at preschool, his teacher told me that DS had problems today with pushing and keeping his hands to himself! Based on how rough DS is at home (and how DH reacts, or fails to), I was worried this would happen, and now it just has to stop. I'm tired of being the bad guy in the house -- several times recently DS has informed me that "daddy is nice and mommy is mean," and especially after all I went through with the pregnancy and DS's early health problems, that really hurts.
So I guess my question is twofold: (1) good parenting books / advice on strongwilled little boys? and (2) short of dragging DH with me to get professional help, does anyone have suggestions on how to get *both* parents on board with consistent discipline?
Thank you in advance... I could do without quite so much stress with #2 in there! :)