I need some sleep advice

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susheli
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Re : I need some sleep advice

Postby susheli » Thu Dec 10, 2009 04:33 pm

I understand - HUGS! - and she will!!!
Have to admit that we became co-sleepers with Aurelia - we were not at all so inclined before she was born but it was the only way we could get any sleep. She stayed in our bed until she was two and then moved out on her own. She has been the best sleeper since - unlike many of our friends we have NO problems with bedtimes, nightmares, coming into our bed at night etc ... I truly believe it's because we let her be with us when she needed it. I believe many more people co-sleep with babies than they admit (and there are also safely rules to follow) and if it feels okay for you it can be wonderful for all and allow much better nights, BUT co-sleeping doesn't work for everyone, def not. And since Alison was sleeping in her own bed for months you know she can do it. Another thing I often forget with babies, but that does often work is
a) to explain things to them, and b) to be sure in your mind about your decision.
So if you feel that she isn't hurting anywhere and decide she needs to learn to sleep on her own, maybe talk to her about it. Say that mommy is there, close-by, but that she can't spend all night awake by Alison's bed etc etc. Someone on here suggested talking openly to Aurelia about a difficulty we were both facing while she was asleep and I tried it - the results were amazing.
hang in there - this too will pass!
hugs!
xox Sush

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Re : I need some sleep advice

Postby joker » Thu Dec 10, 2009 04:15 pm

Sush, at first I did think it was teething, but I gave her motrin two nights in a row and the same thing. She was at the doc about a month ago (a few weeks after she started this) and I asked them to check her ears and nothing. I love her, but I just want her to sleep in her own bed again before she is 16!

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Re : I need some sleep advice

Postby susheli » Thu Dec 10, 2009 04:06 pm

Hi Jen,
it's so nice to hear about you and Alison again, though I'm sorry it's to do with sleep problems.
This may be an obvious question, but do you think she could be teething? That's a number one reason babies stop sleeping well, and wake up again and again needing comfort.
Other reasons may be ear ache (some times mild ear infections can continue for a while undetected even without fever)?
I also found with Aurelia that she always reacted strongly to any changes in our lives and was/is really sensitive to how I especially am feeling...

I am def not a "let your baby cry it out" person and wouldn't ever recommend that. On the contrary, I find there is always a reason why my babies/children cry, it just sometimes take a while - and some help from friends, doctors, etc to figure out what's going on.
Sending hugs and good luck, and let us know how she is,
xox Sush

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I need some sleep advice

Postby joker » Thu Dec 10, 2009 03:29 pm

Here is the situation. Alison had been sleeping through the night 11-12 hours from two months till recently. Now she goes to sleep fine, but will wake up crying about an hour or two after going to bed. I can go in there and comfort her, but as soon as I stop, she is crying again. And it's a pretty inconsolable cry.

It's gotten to the point where the only way I can get her back to sleep and to sleep through the night is to let her sleep with me. It's not really something I want to continue but I don't know what to do to change this habit she is forming. I've had several people tell me to let her cry it out, but I don't know. I kind of feel like I didn't go through all the * of the last two years to let my baby cry and scream and wonder where her mommy is. I've tried going in there every 5,10,15 min and it just calms her till I leave her room. This last scenario went on for four hours one night.

Any suggestions, tips?


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