by kbunsey (895 Posts), Wed Jan 06, 2010 02:33 pm
You know, he does get held A LOT and is what my FIL would say is "spoiled" with the holding, rocking, cuddling and all that. So it could just be that the kid doesn't like being put down much. He seems pretty strong and our Ped's whole thing is just love him and hold him and cuddle him and "you can't spoil an infant." He never even mentions tummy time. He always tells us to read to him every day. Which, hello! I'm a librarian. ;-)
Y'know what else - this whole thing is MY issue. I know it. There is a girl I know who had her baby a week before Kyle. A cute little baby girl. Well, the whole time this girl was pregnant I had a hard time b/c she has high bp (known hypertensive - well, her doc's call it "prehypertensive" but her pressures were higher than mine ever were in my first pregnancy w/ Fiona) and anyways, this girl went her entire pregnancy with higher bp than I've ever had (outside of my Preeclampsia) and her first pregnancy went fine. Baby girl was born at 40 weeks and everybody was great. Which is great! I'm happy for them - but - for me - it just sucked! I just don't understand how some people get sick and some people don't! And I didn't want her to get sick or have Preeclampsia - that's not it.
I guess I'm still not "over" my Preeclampsia and loss. And I'm still baffled by this stupid, stupid, horrible illness and don't understand why some people with rude bp do ok and some people who had bp in the normal range get severely ill, have a sick baby who dies and then become hypertensive for life!!?? Me :-(
Obviously, this is my issue. There is a major jealousy thing going on inside of me. Stupid jealousy. Please don't think I'm awful, even though I feel like I am.
So...back to the issue w/ Kyle and tummy time - this baby girl that's a week older than Kyle supposedly LOVES tummy time and we saw them over the holiday and I just started getting all sensitive and insecure like I'm a bad mom, and my baby is a wussy and etc, etc...
And then my own mother was over here w/ pictures of me at 2 mos holding my head up really high on my tummy and acting like Kyle is an invalid. It doesn't help that she very obviously wanted me to have another girl - as if I could just order one up.
All right - that's enough feel sorry for me time. Thank you for the suggestions and listening. We'll keep at our tummy time - gently and lovingly.