I know almost every mother of toddlers deals with this... Miles isn't horrible, but sometimes I just don't know what to do. It's one thing when its dinner time and there's a power struggle over getting bread before eating the main meal (he loves bread and would eat only bread if we let him). But this morning, and many mornings, he had a tantrum about going to daycare. Most days I leave enough time to wake him up slowly, tell him stories, and attempt to minimize a potential tantrum. But today, I was running late. I still told him stories, but it was time to get him dressed and I couldn't keep telling stories. He refused to get dressed, and wanted to stay home, and kicked me when I tried to put his pants on. I end up telling him he'll go to school in underwear, pick him off the bed, and tell him to get in the car. He lies down on the floor and starts crying and says that he wants to stay home... But ultimately he gives in and gets dressed. I felt like mean mommy, but I don't know how to deal with his tantrums when I'm already late. I can't take 20 minutes every morning to get him dressed. I hate resorting to being mean. I hate making him cry. I hate starting the day like this. He still had teardrops on his cheeks when I loaded him in the car.
How do others deal with uncooperative toddlers and tantrums without being mean?