I can't believe that Maija is a month old already. Ainsley used to completely freak us out when she missed a feeding. She was a cluster-feeder. I can tell you that, even though she was a formula baby, she was never on a "schedule." I remember putting water on her feet to try to wake her up in the middle of the night.
As far as co-sleeping... Well, I was adamant about not starting that habit, but 18 months later, Miss Priss still sleeps between us. We also used the SnuggleNest, and it was great. We tried every method to get her out of our bed (co-sleeper, crying method, no-cry method), and nothing worked, so we just resigned to the fact that she likes to snuggle her parents. Not to mention, it is a fabulous form of birth control :-)... Anyway.. Good luck and don't be too hard on yourself. Looking back now, I wish I would have just let Ainsley sleep, instead of torturing her into a feeding.
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Ainsley 11/26/02-36 Weeks Preeclampsia