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Just out of curiousity...

Postby tracey » Thu Jun 03, 2004 08:43 pm

by tracey (919 Posts), Thu Jun 03, 2004 08:43 pm

When I was pregnant with Ila, my husband and I had decided we didn't want to know the sex of the baby until the birth day. Now, in planning to try again, we already know that this time around, we want to know ahead of time. I think for us, it's a way of now removing the surprises from the situation.
Just wondering if any of you had had the same thoughts?

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby dja » Thu Jun 03, 2004 09:27 pm

by dja (895 Posts), Thu Jun 03, 2004 09:27 pm

I found that I became much more bonded with Amelia when I found out that she was a girl at the 16-week ultrasound. Next time, we definitely want to know gender for this reason. I also think we will now cherish every moment of a healthy pregnancy even more the next time, and knowing the gender of our little person is part of that somehow.

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby angelkat » Fri Jun 04, 2004 05:04 am

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Fri Jun 04, 2004 05:04 am

Tracey...

I needed to "prepare" myself as I wasn't sure how I would take the news if I was to have a girl. As I was so overjoy to find out I was having another boy (my three sons and my perfect princess)as I knew for my mind and soul it would be better.

I am so very glad that I found out. I went thru Katlyne's things and finally was able to let go and put things away....

To answer your question, it's really a personal decision but for me it helped in so many ways....


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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby alimarie » Fri Jun 04, 2004 05:15 pm

by alimarie (530 Posts), Fri Jun 04, 2004 05:15 pm

We also waited to know what Madalyn was at birth but have decided to find out this next time around. my husband went with my wish the first time and we both look forward to knowing ahead of time with this next one. i get so excited just thinking about it.

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby lisac » Sun Jun 06, 2004 10:10 am

by lisac (247 Posts), Sun Jun 06, 2004 10:10 am

We wanted to know the sex, and we were so happy when we found out we were having a girl. Then we lost her at 24 wks. I'm not sure of this, but I think knowing the sex may have made things even harder after her loss. I had bonded with the idea of having a girl. Next time I don't think I'll want to know the sex until I'm far enough along that the child will have a chance.
I'm going to try to ignore the fact that I'm pregnant for as long as possible. Ha! Yes, that's rediculous, I know!

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby julie f » Sun Jun 06, 2004 12:43 am

by julie f (7993 Posts), Sun Jun 06, 2004 12:43 am

Hearing, "It's a boy..." was about the only good surprise we got last time around so, at this point, we're kinda thinking we'll wait to be surprised again... But, I really can't say for sure yet.

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby kylesmom » Sun Jun 06, 2004 01:09 pm

by kylesmom (186 Posts), Sun Jun 06, 2004 01:09 pm

I know this will sound silly, but we just sort of knew we were having a boy. We didn't even consider any girls' names... in fact, we came up with 'Kyle' at the same time in different rooms! (A long and weird story.) We did get it confirmed with our u/s though just to be sure!

Good luck to all of you who are TTC!

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby catherine » Sun Jun 06, 2004 02:04 pm

by catherine (2832 Posts), Sun Jun 06, 2004 02:04 pm

We didn't find out with either of our first two kids and when I was pregnant with Chloe and facing much more surveillance and possibly more u/s and opportunities to peek we discussed it and decided that if we did find out, then we'd be breaking our tradition of waiting and making her pregnancy too different, too medicalized. In the end, we only had the one level II and I wouldn't let the tech peek, if we weren't going to know, then nobody else was going to know either[:p]. If we'd needed to do an amnio, we would have asked them not to tell us the baby's gender.

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby angelkat » Sun Jun 06, 2004 03:38 pm

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Sun Jun 06, 2004 03:38 pm

Jennifer,
I also have a Kyle, but my Ky is named after a football player (I heard the name 12 years ago while preg with him and said if it's a boy I want to name him Kyle!!)

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Re : Just out of curiousity...

Postby kimmc » Tue Jun 08, 2004 02:25 pm

by kimmc (54 Posts), Tue Jun 08, 2004 02:25 pm

Jennifer,
When I was preg. I definately wanted to know the sexes of my babies! I couldn't imagine having to guess whether it would be b/b, g/g, or b/g. Coming up w/4 names was not something I wanted to do. But next time around I will probably find out again. It's nice knowing what to expect!
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