by jenndola (1850 Posts), Sun Jun 20, 2004 11:28 pm
I always go with no, because I live in Utah, and every third person asks me if I have children, because I'm married and 28 years old. It's always asked right after "How long have you been married?" (7 years.) Then the person kind of looks at me funny, and says something along the lines of "Have you thought about having children?"
Sometimes I really hate where we live, because it's unfathomable to me that complete strangers would think this was any of their business. I consider my ovaries and uterus rather personal, but maybe that's just me.
Of course, most people assume I have problems with infertility since I have no children as of yet, and I don't correct them, because it's just too much trouble to try to correct them. That's really how I feel about talking to most people about these things--it's just too much trouble, because I'll just cry, and it's 3 years after the fact, and I'm so tired of the crying.
I think the worst is when my mom tells people I've lost 2 pregnancies, because she doesn't count the 3rd--after all, it was only at 6 weeks, so I wasn't "really" pregnant. She also didn't include my stillborn daughter, Maggie, in my grandfather's obituary, which she wrote. I might not have taken that so hard, but she DID mention my aunt's stillborn son and her own son who died at 10 days old, so that was difficult.
My brother has a 10-month old son, the first live grandchild for my parents, and every time I hear someone ask them if he's their first grandchild, and they answer "yes," I just want to scream, "NO! He's your first LIVE grandchild, but he's not your first grandchild!"
Gack. Now I'm crying and feeling sorry for myself. Crap. Anyway, my advice, just become a hermit. Avoid all unneccesary human contact. It's easier.[:D]
HELLP Syndrome 19.5 wks
2 m/c (14 wks & 6 wks)
Hmmmm...in re-reading this, I'm thinking apparently I need to be posting on the "grief and loss" board...*laughing at myself, because it's easier than the stupid crying*