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[jean]

Sam10-so you didn't have sex at all before the + OPK...just on the day of the positve and the day after? Did you have intercourse at all other than that throughout the month?

Thanks for the info...I appreciate all the thoughts and ideas ppl have to offer!

[claricemaala]

Sorry for my ignorance. WHat does it mean "two year PE window?" Does this mean we are to try within 2 years of the last pregnancy? and why?
Thanks in advance

[jean]

WHat does it mean "two year PE window?" Does this mean we are to try within 2 years of the last pregnancy? and why?

Yes...your spiral arteries are enlarged from your previous pregnancy if you can get pregnant again within two years. This can help you to possibly last longer in a second pregnancy.

[sam10]

Jean- when we conceived Henry we actually had intercourse only once and that was the day of the positive OPK. We were moving and a lot of stuff going on, so we did not bother to maximize our chances. But usually we try the day of the positive OPK and the day after and that is also what my Ob told me to do. In combination with the temperature charting I then also knew then the temp was up, that for the rest of the cycle we could close up shop and not stress about it anymore.

[alexa5]

We did similar to the above.... I was pregnant twice...one ended in miscarriage, and the other in a son. But with both we just timed one session of intercourse at close to what we thought the right time was. And the rest of the month we did whatever..sometimes did and sometimes didn't depending on how busy things were at the time. But we knew the rest of the month didn't matter in regard to TTC, and didn't give it a thought then at all.

[jean]

Oh, that gives me a big relief...thank you for share that info! Maybe we can try less and still be successful..

It seems like with my charting, I am noticing that I always ovulate the day I get the postive OPK. And my hubby and I both work, so usually can't have sex until the evening. I worried that what if I ovulated say at 1 or 2pm, but then we couldn't have sex until 9pm...would we be missing the boat?

Another thing that is weird is that I've read you're supposed to do the OPK's around late afternoon or early evening. Well, often when I do them I will take one at that time of the day and get a negative result, but then if I try again the next morning, I'll get a positive one. (And I always make sure to not go to the bathroom for 4 hrs prior to testing). Maybe I'm just the acception to the rule? I don't know..

[alexa5]

Do you find that you are getting the positive with your kit around the same cycle day each month? If so, keep in mind you can have intercourse up to a few days before--the important thing is that the sperm is there ready for the egg at ovulation. So, it might be wise not to wait so long and try to have intercourse a little sooner before ovulation so you aren't too late.

As I had said, we were successful on day 10, and I probably didn't ovulate until day 12 or 13.... And to be honest, we did it on that day because my hubby was going on a trip right after, and he didn't know that day was chosen for any specific reason...he just figured we were having sex to have sex Though he knew we were trying to TTC, I never really discussed the good days with him or anything like that. I just really tried to make it no big deal.

[jean]

Yes, we started trying the day before the postive OPK. But it is a struggle/nightmare. There were tears, anger, and failed tries. We had sex the day before, day of, and day after. My hubby failed the "day of"...we had a lot of upset and tried again later that night, which was successful but unhappy and he said it was a "small amount"..I could tell he was having a real hard time with it. Then we tried again the next night again unsuccessfully...he was in tears, and we tried again later that night and were successful, but he told me he was exhausted and again had a very "small amount".
So I just don't think that he can go multiple days in a row. But I just don't know which days are the most important. If I knew which days were the most important, maybe we could cut it down to an every other day thing around the important time. I just can't seem to figure which days would be the most important.

My positive OPK's seem to run within a day or two of each other.

[alexa5]

So, I guess what I meant by up to a few days before is that you don't have to do it multiple times...often one time will do if timed right (within a few days before ovulation). Honestly, I think trying too many times in that short of a window could be tiring for many people. It really is about the timing and not the frequency...I was just trying to help by saying that you don't have to get it "so close" to ovulation...since sperm can hang around for a few days.

[sam10]

I would also try to minimize the frequency. As has been said, it is the timing rather than how often. My doctors told me to have intercourse on the day of the positive OPK (which tells you that ovulation will happen within the next 24 to 36 hours) and the day after. But even if you only do it the same day of the positive OPK, as sperm can hang around.