I'm in a real quandary over my MFM and whether I should go with him or find someone new. Hoping you have some advice!
Doctor A would be my primary doc in a subsequent pregnancy. He knows everything
about my previous pregnancy and was even there on my delivery day. He is walking distance from the hospital where I would deliver. He was recently in listed in a local magazine as one of the "top docs" for MFM.
Doctor B is a 3 hour drive away. I have met with him twice and he's run some tests on me. I heart this doctor. I think he's well respected in the preeclampsia community. He strikes me as someone who is very knowledgeable about preeclampsia specifically (of all the "high risk" pregnancy issues) and who cares about each individual woman and each pregnancy. He even gave me his email address and told me to email him anytime with questions.
I saw Doctor B for a consultation and was thrilled to find out that I could continue to see him periodically during my subsequent pregnancy (though I haven't started ttc, I'm trying to get all my ducks in a row). I really want to do this- see both of them (apparently I'm not doctor monogamous
). Doctor A would still be my doctor of record because he's local. BUT Doctor A told me today that he will NOT SEE ME if I continue to see Doctor B during a pregnancy. He thinks Doctor B is a little "out there" on some things and he doesn't want to put me in a situation where they disagree on things. In fact, they already disagree. Doctor A wants me to stop a medication once I get a + preg test that Doctor B put me on and told me to continue using during pregnancy.
Now I don't know what to do! Just forget about seeing Doctor B and be happy with the consult only? Find a different MFM down here who wouldn't mind working with Doctor B too? Would any
MFM want to have their patient seeing another MFM simultaneously, or is this some kind of alpha male pi**ing match?