Hubs and I haven't started ttc yet, but I know how you feel. I have PCOS and we tried for over a year to conceive her and finally did on my second round of Clomid. Now not only do I have the worries that come along with PCOS, we have to deal with the uncertainties of preeclampsia and HELLP.
I want so badly to be a mother and I hate how many obstacles we'll have to overcome.
Are you using OPKs? I've tried charting and could never get the hang of it because of my irregular cycles, but the OPKs were great to have during our Clomid rounds. Of course, maybe several cycles of baby-dancing for fun could do the trick.
Finally, don't give up yet. I know it sounds selfish, but I feed off of the success stories on this board to keep me looking to the future. The more ladies that get pregnant and have babies after a loss, the better I feel about trying again. I want you to be one of those ladies.