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Re: So angry and upset

Postby mom29 » Sun Jan 08, 2012 03:38 pm

by mom29 (1391 Posts), Sun Jan 08, 2012 03:38 pm

I'm so very sorry for your loss of Molly. Did you deliver at a hospital with a nicu ? At such an early gestational age it still might not have helped.

The OB I went to for 17+ years (and raved about) really dropped the ball in two of my pregnancies. I was so angry I didn't bother going back for the six week check-up. I was angry for a very long time.

It's going to take time for you to get past the anger, especially since your daughter died. I switched over to a mfm for the next pregnancy and it helped so much to have a doctor I trusted completely.

Please don't give up hope, your loss is still so recent.
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Postby Olliesmum » Mon Feb 20, 2012 00:35 am

by Olliesmum (13 Posts), Mon Feb 20, 2012 00:35 am

Hi Missingmolly,

I too had an emergency c-section with my first due to pe resulting in a vertical insicion (J-shape after the initial bikini cut they couldnt get to him and extended to one side) I too was told under no circumstances was I to VBAC I have just had my second bub who is now 13 weeks old born at 38 weeks (by c-section) pe free. I am not sure if I am allowed to post this please delete it if I cant but there is a group of very special women whom have managed to vbac after a "special scar" just google special scars ~ special women and you will find all the support and information you may need I just wish I had found them sooner. My husband and I will be TTC once our little one is 3 and I will be advocating for my baby and my body, in an attempt to vbac. Of course at the end of the day a happy healthy little bundle to take home is all any of us want. I wish you all the very best in your journey to overcome your tradgedy and may you find happiness in the future.

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Re: So angry and upset

Postby brianned5 » Mon Mar 19, 2012 10:55 am

by brianned5 (567 Posts), Mon Mar 19, 2012 10:55 am

I'm so sorry for your loss and how your doctor handled everything. I know I had preeclampsia for about 4 weeks before Kylie was
delivered. I was later diagnosed with severe preeclampsia and class I hellp. I was transferred to a better hospital and was put under and my daughter was delivered via classical c-section at 25 weeks. She lived 10 days. The delivering doctor made sure I was told about my verticle incision and also wrote it on all my discharge papers. I got pregnant a little less than 6 months later. My new doctor just told me I was absolutely not "allowed" to go into labor and they would deliver the baby at 36-37 weeks. I didn't have any problems and my second daughter was delivered at 36w3d. The doctor said my uterus looked really good and gave me the go ahead to have a third baby.
Brianne (28) DH (29)

(DD) Kylie Nicole ~ July 13th 2008 to July 23rd 2008. Born at 25w2d due to severe preeclampsia and hellp syndrome.
1 pound 6 ounces, 12 1/2 inches.

(DD) Kyndall Hope - September 21st 2009. Born at 36w3d. 5 pounds 2 ounces, 18 inches. PE FREE
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