Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby MomTimesThree » Wed Apr 04, 2012 01:58 am

Doh! I was just over there today! :)

For what it's worth, I would hear what she has to say in general about your situation and then ask. It's a totally legitimate question to ask and you should take the time to ask everything on your list ('cause you'll have 'em all written down right? ;) )

Good luck and keep us posted!
2008-Our Baby Girl, PTL born too early at 30w6d, Fought so hard... Forever Loved & Missed
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w

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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby JB » Tue Apr 03, 2012 06:21 pm

After I delivered at 29 weeks from severe PE my OB advised me to never get pregnant again and pushed for me to have my tubes tied. I was not ready to give up trying for a second child, so when I got pregnant again I found a new OB. It happened within six months of delivery and was unplanned (partly due to issues getting birth control from my OB.. it's a long story and part of the reason I wanted a new OB), so I didn't get a chance to consult with an MFM in advance. The new OB was not discouraging, but was concerned and cautious. She referred me to an MFM, who was much less worried about my pregnancy. He was very optimistic about my chances of a good outcome, and left me in my new OB's care (though he did remain available to her on a consulting basis). If I develop blood pressure issues that my OB can't keep under control, I will be transferred to his care.

Good luck with your appointment! If you do decide to try again, both you and your doctor will be better prepared for dealing with any problems that come up. I think being prepared and close monitoring can make a big difference in outcomes.
1st - miscarried at 11 weeks in Dec. 2009
2nd - baby girl born Mar. 2011 at 29 weeks 6 days due to severe PE
3rd - baby boy due June 19th, 2012

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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby kerisue » Tue Apr 03, 2012 04:32 pm

I think whether you should try again and what your chances might be of successfully carrying a future pregnancy are legitimate questions to ask a MFM. I have heard of "regular" OBs recommending folks not try to conceive again (including my own!) but I haven't heard of an MFM recommending somone not try to conceive again after having PE or HELLP once, even if it was early and severe (which doesn't mean they wouldn't recommend against pregnancy, just that I haven't heard of it happening). Though you may legitimately come to that decision yourself, if you want to TTC again and the MFM recommends against it I would get a 2nd opinion before doing anything radical.

Thinking about trying to conceive again IS terrifying. You want the joy of motherhood again so badly and yet there's so much potential for more grief and sorrow. Let us know what comes out of your appointment and discussions with the doc! Hoping for the best for you.
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby sam10 » Tue Apr 03, 2012 08:25 am

I did ask that question also, and I see no reason not to voice your concerns. I even asked about the chances of dying myself ;) The MFM is the person to ask exactly these questions. Even thought s/he won't be able to tell you if you'll get it again in a subsequent pregnancy, your specific case of PE/HELLP and your overall health will be assessed, so you'll know what your chances are.
Pre-consults are nerve wracking, and due to my fear forgetting everything that would be discussed, I brought my husband (4 ears are better than 2), a notebook and pen, and had written down all kinds of questions. If you need help with what questions to ask, let me know and I'll dig up some old threads around this topic.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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H (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
M (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby lisa112 » Tue Apr 03, 2012 07:56 am

Hi Flori, although I can't offer much advice as I'm in the same boat as you, I wanted to wish you luck at your next appointment and that I hope it goes well. I too am 31 going on 32 in December and lost my little girl in January due to NEC, but delivered her at 30 wks b/c of severe PE and HELLP. At my follow up appointment with my ob asking her if I could try again was one of the first things I asked her and had feared her telling me no. She told me that I could but that I would have to wait 6 months. I have an appointment with a MFM two weeks from tomorrow and am so scared of what he is going to say. You are not alone in your fears and anxiety. Reading stories from others of successful pregnancies and bringing home a baby in the end inspires me and brings me hope that it can happen, eventhough the fear is not too far behind. Sending you strength, hugs, and hope.
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Samantha Grace born 1/12/12 @ 30 + 3, 2lbs 2oz, severe PE with HELLP, IUGR
lived 17 days and passed due to complications after surgery because of NEC

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Re: Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby flori » Tue Apr 03, 2012 06:16 am

Oh and I'm 31, going on 32 in December. The two year window will close next March.

I'm biting my nails in nervousness.
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Seeing an MFM on Thursday!

Postby flori » Tue Apr 03, 2012 06:14 am

Would it be rude to lead with "So do you think I should just not try again?"

I never worried about it until recently, but now I'm terrified. I had always envisioned the meeting going well and we'd talk about a plan for next pregnancy, but what if she says not to bother?

I have HTN, I still have some weight to lose, and HELLP and pre-e came SO early last time! That's like 40 jokers in my deck. :(

Ahhhhhhh!
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Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.


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