There is a lot of hoping for the best, but it should not be the only thing you can do. You can prepare somewhat and get a sense of control by doing a few things:
1) get a consultation with a MFM (maternal-fetal-medicine specialist also called peri or high-risk ob). Your current health, your medical history and pregnancy history will be evaluated. Based on all this data, s/he will be able to assess your situation and give you an estimate of re-occurence. Also possible underlying disorders might be checked (e.g. clotting disorders etc)
2) get the best care team (docs and nurses) whom you trust completely. Even if this means you are consulting with more than one doc. This was an absolute must for me.
2) get/remain as healthy as possible. it might not prevent PE, but it makes you feel better and it is always good to be your healthy best
Remember to always check with your doc what is recommended for YOU.
3) consider counseling. It helped me so much to see a therapist during my pregnancy with Matilda.
4) keep busy (e.g. focus on your job or a hobby).
5) build a network of friends and family who are actually helpful and understand. keep those who make your life harder at a distance (at least for the duration of the pregnancy). keep posting here. there is a lot of great support to be found.
6) lastly, keep in mind that pregnancy after PE/HELLP is a very scary undertaking. It is not a pleasure cruise nor a walk in the park
Most of us who dare to try again are scared, feel confident one day and then panicked the next. this is absolutely normal.
Let us know how it goes. And welcome to the forums
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011Henry
(1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeksMatilda
(Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE
Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/