I can see your point... You'd probably have to explain to your husband everything to say (over and over), and that would end up being more stressful. I'm sorry to hear that he's had to work really long hours as well. That must make things even more difficult for you.
Please be careful. I would absolutely hate for you to take a turn for the worse and have to have a tube removed. It kind of scares me when I hear about someone going against medical advice. I won't even pretend to imagine how you feel about all of the overwhelming circumstances you are going through, but I can relate to not wanting to be poked and prodded. After I had Evan and was recovering in the crappy high-risk post-partum ward, I was unable to urinate on my own (TMI!), so I had to have another foley cath (can't tell you how many other times I had blood drawn and sterile urine caths inserted) put in. Well, because of my 4th degree laceration, it took 4 different nurses 4 different tries to get it in. Needless to say I wanted OUT OF THE HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY after that... But, I was still too sick and was forced to stay (I'm military and going "AMA" is apparently a punishable offense for me.) Emotionally though, all I could think about was grabbing Evan and running out of the hospital. I didn't care that I was still not well. I felt good enough to leave and that's all that mattered to me.
Sorry to ramble on and on, like you even feel like hearing my antecdote. I don't want to be a b$*%& or the bad guy, just a concerned internet big sister looking out for a sweet lady who is going through a really rotten period right now. Take care and hang in there.
DS-Evan, 7/19/2003. Mild PE at 40 weeks