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Are you considering having another child after preeclampsia? Trying again after preeclampsia can be an emotional challenge. You can find support with others who share your concerns here.
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julie f
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Re : newbie here with a question?

Postby julie f » Sun May 08, 2005 10:34 pm

Jaymee,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I too lost a son to this horrible disease, my heart breaks for you.

I knew I wanted to be pregnant again as soon as possible after I lost my son Zach. Even still, I was scared to death and absolutely terrified when I actually did get pg again. I don't think there is any way around the fear, you just have to go right through it. Fortunately, you will find incredible women here that will help you each step of the way. I know I could have never made it through without them.

I was monitored by my regular OB and by a high-risk OB during my 2nd pregnancy. As I got further into the pregnancy, I had more frequent monitoring - NSTs, ultrasounds, bp checks, etc. I was able to make it to 36 weeks and 6 days and never did develop preeclampsia! At my last appt., things started to look a bit off - bp was up, fluid was low, NST wasn't as reactive and baby's growth had slowed. So, my dr. decided that we wouldn't wait any longer - our nerves were shot by this point anyway - and we scheduled a repeat C-section.

You're doing the right thing by gathering as much info as you can, I did the same thing. I wanted to know everything about preeclampsia. I read everything I could get my hands on and met with three different high-risk doctors before we found the one we were comfortable with for pregnancy #2. I would absolutely recommend searching until you find the right doctor.

Please feel free to email me anytime, [email protected] .

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Julie (28)
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe

Jackson Charles 01/24/05, 36wks 6dys - NO PE!!

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Re : newbie here with a question?

Postby dianeme » Tue May 03, 2005 02:30 pm

Jamie,

I am so sorry to hear of your little one passing. This is so sad. I have had a similar experience and it can certainly feel that the sky is only falling on you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. We are all here for you and your partner.

It sounds like you are considering when to make a go of it again. If you and your partner are ready mentally and you have had the OK from the Drs. forge ahead!

We lost a baby and got started about 3 months thereafter with the Drs OK. What I glean from this group is that you would want to keep OB's, GP's and others who work with you in the loop, and get a peri to make a conception/pregnancy/delivery plan with you, your partner and your Drs. My peri suggests closer than average monitoring by him especially for our next try.

Please let us know what your Drs come up with for you. Then take it one step at a time. You have to enjoy life even though it can be so trying at times.

Best wishes
Diane


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Re : newbie here with a question?

Postby fiona » Tue May 03, 2005 08:18 am

It's so hard losing a baby - I lost my first son at 26 weeks from pe. Part of me was desperate to try again, the rest of me was terrified. I did get pregnant seven months later and was seen by my OB every two weeks from the moment I got an hpt +. Chances of reoccurance depend on how badly you had pe the first time, and whether you have any underlying disorders (clotting problems, hypertension etc). Many women here have gone on to have completely pe free second pregnancies.

For myself, I wasn't that lucky. But I did get less sick and later - I made it to 30 weeks and my son is now six. It was very stressful going through it all again, but I have never regretted it. If i were you, I'd go for a preconception appointment with a high risk OB or perinatologist and talk it all through. I'd also ask if they would run all the tests for underlying disorders. Good luck with your decision.

Fiona
dh Tom
ds Nate 12/8/97 - 14/8/97 26 weeks severe pre-e IUGR 1lb
ds Jay 4/11/98 30 weeks pre-e 3lbs 11 oz
no 3 due 15/6/05

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Re : newbie here with a question?

Postby mom2tori » Tue May 03, 2005 06:07 am

I am so sorry to hear about your son-no one should have to bury their child. I was terrified to have another baby after my son died. I thought there was no way I could put myself through that heartache again and that I am not strong enough to bury another baby. Well, five years after my son died I was pregnant and scared out of my mind!!! I was watched VERY closely, going to office visits about every other week for the first 20 or so weeks and then every week after that. I had the 24 hr urine tests it seemed like all the time and ultrasounds and blood work. I also had a very good relationship with my doc who was very supportive and good about discussing all of my fears. I did not make it to term to but did make it 2 weeks later than the first pregnancy and my daughter was heavier and longer which is always a good thing. The unknown is always the scariest and since we really don't know what the outcome of the pregnancy will be we can't help but be nervous, worried and frightened. You are perfectly normal to feel anxiety over having another baby. Good luck.

Alissa mommy to:
Dominic 9/10/97-9/11/97 @ 28 weeks
Victoria 1/8/02 @ 30 weeks

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Re : newbie here with a question?

Postby cara » Tue May 03, 2005 05:38 am

Wow, I am very sorry about your baby boy. That must be the most difficult thing to go through, the death of your baby.

I had mild pre-e and I just went for my preconception appt last week. The Dr told me that the chances increase by how severe you had it first. He gave me about a 10% chance of getting it again. I'm not a Dr but that's what I can pass on to you! I am probably going to make an appt with my peri to talk things over with him also but the OB said I didn't have to! I know other people here have gotten higher percentages of reoccurance from their Drs, which is why I am probably going to make an appt with the specialist. That may be your best bet, to make an appt with the peri and ask him/her about all of your concerns.

Best of luck to you.

Cara L. Stevens
DS - Grant 3/28/04
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newbie here with a question?

Postby jaymee444 » Mon May 02, 2005 07:51 pm

[?]We lost my son 9 months after he was born. Amicro preemie, I had severe pre e.
I went for a battery of tests, they found nothing.. I am scared to death to try for another baby.
Its only been 6 months since we lost him. How scared were any of you?
If you did have another child how closely monitored where you during the pregnancy? Did you go full term?
I just need to gather as much info as I can.. chicken little feels the sky is falling..[:(]


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