Hi Sarah, I'm sorry you have joined the club of those of us that have lost our babies to PE. My husband and I decided that for each mother's day and father's day it was up to that person what they wanted to do that day. If you wanted to stay home, fine. Want to go to brunch, that's good too. It helped that there were no expectationa and we supported each other fully.
One of the things that has really helped me in dealing with my loss, is finding ways for him to live through me. The Preeclampsia Foundation is hosting Promise Walks the weekend of Mother's day. We do this to honor those who are living, those who are lost and those without their children. Check out www.promisewalk.org for more info. There is a Promise Walk in Tucson this year, hopefully you can make it.