I agree with anonpreemiemom. I went back and forth so many times over last 2 years if we wanted to have another child. Of course I wanted one, but I kept on trying to weigh the options. We had finally decided to try one more time and low and behold I was already a few weeks pregnant. At that point, you try to focus on moving forward and staying healthy for as long as possible. It is scary- especially when you have another child. I worry if I am putting my own life at risk and her future by trying to have another baby- but I do know that the biggest risk is for the baby this time, not me, since I am more acutely aware of the symptoms, signs and things to be on look-out for. Honestly, I will not take extreme risks with my own life because I have a daughter to worry about already- but I am trying to be prepared for whatever happens.
This site gives me a lot of hope because there are lots of women who make it through with healthy babies at the end of the day. For me, I needed to know exactly what I was getting into this time so I could try to prepare for as many consequences or issues as possible.