Julie; it's so tough, isn't it? And I know (and I'm sure you know, too) that the more we obsess over this, the less likely it is to happen at this time. And that makes it even more tough!
What helps me a little is charting my temps every morning, and then plotting them online (with "Fertility Friend", they offer a free VIP membership for the first 30 days).
This way, I can see roughly when there is even a chance of getting pregnant, and when it clearly isn't an issue. So this helps me not obsess for at least part of the month.
During the times where it is possible I could get pregnant, I get so excited to go to sleep at night, because that means I can wake up the next morning to get yet another temperature and log on and plot it (wierd, I know!).
And then on FF they have a place where you can look at other people's charts and see if yours resembles theirs at all and see if they became pregnant and get hope that maybe you will, too...makes it a little more fun.
Hang in there. I have high hopes for both of us (and lots of wishes of ++'s for everyone else here TTC!).
~Sandy/DD born via emergency C at 35 wks/1 day June '03 due to Severe PE/class III HELLP
Risk factors: HBP/asthma/high cholesterol
currently TTC for #2