by laura (5139 Posts), Thu Nov 27, 2003 10:32 am
Oh no, don't play dumb, I didn't mean that! I just feel that the more assertive I got, the more my doctors retreated. They don't get excited over stuff, so if it even looked like I was going to get excited, they looked nervous and for a way to get me out of the door. I can understand to a certain extent, I worked in a prenatal clinic and I saw some pregnant ladies get pretty upset and pretty vocal at the docs for transgressions ranging from little to large.
(aside, not preeclampsia related- one of my girlfriends became emotional at a prenatal appointment- her doctor blanched, RAN for the door, and said "I'll get a nurse" Can you imagine?)
What I'd probably do is tell them you're worried, and ask them to explain they don't think it's preeclampsia. That you trust them, but you need to know to set your mind at ease.
I did avoid mentioning the word internet myself, the last midwife I saw before I changed care launched this huge lecture about how I needed to stay off the internet, that they were the ones who were responsible for my care, and would take care of it, and I didn't know what I was talking about. Uh-huh. Please. That was my LAST visit to see her. I didn't hesitate, though to mention that I was in touch with people here at the Foundation. Good luck, and don't give up!
Allie 5-13-98 (35 weeks-pre-e)
Baby Camille 4-17-03 (36 weeks- htn and oligo)