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Postby sweetiesuzy » Fri Dec 05, 2003 06:18 am

by sweetiesuzy (2404 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 06:18 am

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. What you are feeling is normal. Don't let yourself think you can't grieve the way you need to - whatever thazt may be. I encourage you to take lots of picture when you see her today. It may seem really hard to do that, but you will treasure them later. Take as long as you need. Don't let anyone rush you or tell you to get over it. You never will. She loves you and is forever a part of you. Your life has changed and no one can understand what you feel. You are a good mom and she is smiling down on you right now.

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Suzanna
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Re : Help.

Postby mada » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:22 am

by mada (4081 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:22 am

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Ashton. I cannot even begin to imagine how you feel. Reading your words, I could feel your dispear and I shed tears for you. I haven't been through what you have been through, but preeclampsia is a terrible, terrible, disease, I want you to know that you are not a freak of nature....So many women blame themselves, but it's not your fault....Do take the time to feel whatever you need to feel...we are here for you and I hope you have comfort today. I know it will probably be the most difficult thing in your life. Prayers to you and your family....warm hugs...

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Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.
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Re : Help.

Postby twolfgram » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:27 am

by twolfgram (388 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:27 am

I would just like to echo the thoughts of others here. I am sooo sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be able to feel some peace soon. I'm sure Ashton knows you're her mom. She's watching over you in heaven, now. You have your own little guardian angel. Take comfort in that and your other two children. Again, I'm so sorry.

Therese Mom to
Jonathan - 28 weeks born 10/4/95
Angel in Heaven - Erik 12/20/02
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Re : Help.

Postby maddiekinsmom » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:59 am

by maddiekinsmom (49 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:59 am

I wish there was something that could be said or done to take away the pain. My heart aches for you. Know that this group is always here to listen and support you through this most difficult time.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Rachel

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Madeleine 4/8/01 (29 weeker: 1 lb,14oz; severe PE, IUGR)
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Re : Help.

Postby cj7suthrnbelle » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:19 am

by cj7suthrnbelle (5 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:19 am

I buried my Ashton. I so badly wanted to crawl in with her and sleep with her in my arms for eternity. I would just like to cease to exist.
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Re : Help.

Postby mada » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:37 am

by mada (4081 Posts), Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:37 am

G-d I am so sorry. Your anguish must be unbearable. I will pray for comfort and peace for you and your family. Mada

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Re : Help.

Postby kimb » Sat Dec 06, 2003 00:14 am

by kimb (140 Posts), Sat Dec 06, 2003 00:14 am

Rebecca I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son in July and as dark as it feels right now it does get better. I think of my little boy every day - sometimes I can talk to him and be ok - others my heart just breaks over and over again and the tears don't stop coming - as they are falling now seeing how you are hurting. All the feelings you are having right now are normal and you will make it through. Anytime you need a little extra support - log on - we are here for you.
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Re : Help.

Postby angelkat » Sat Dec 06, 2003 06:58 pm

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Sat Dec 06, 2003 06:58 pm

It's hard to think that it will get better, but it does. Each person is different, and each person goes thru grief their own way. Men (most) almost act as if it didn't happen, as if they are over the hurt (Don't believe them they are just trying to help us by hiding their thoughts and concerns.) I always feel talking about my daughter really helps me. I always feel that she is right there on my shoulder guiding me thru the days and nights. If you ever need to chat or need someone to talk with please feel free to e-mail me... at trakapp@charter.net

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~T

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Ky (11)
and our Angel Katlyne(12/9/02-04/02/03) forever in our hearts and thoughts
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Re : Help.

Postby alisa » Mon Dec 08, 2003 06:06 pm

by alisa (9 Posts), Mon Dec 08, 2003 06:06 pm

Hi,

I am so sorry for your loss!! I lost my first daughter, Lindsey at 36 weeks due to severe pre-eclampsia. It was very sudden and so difficult. Most people can not begin to imagine what the pain is like and unknowingly say the wrong thing. One thing that did help was my husband and I went to a loss support group (for pregnancies - it is called MIS - miscarraige, infant death and stillbirth.) I dont know if this is something you are interested in or not, but maybe your hospital might know of a group in your area. If not, maybe the internet support groups can be of some help. This is how I found Preeclampsia Foundation 3 1/2 years ago, and am a Board Memeber today. My story is on the website if you want to read it.

I hope you get some answers to what happened. After our loss, I found out I had Factor 5 Leiden ( a gene that makes my blood clot) and I took Lovenox shots through my next 2 pregnancies. (Both were pre-e free and I have a healthy daughter - 28 months old, and son, 10 months.)

Please know that you are in my thoughts and know that each day your pain will get a little bit easier. We will never forget our precious children. They live on with us in our hearts.

Please feel free to email or call if you want.

alisa_schultz@cox.net
(703) 893-2553.

Alisa
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Re : Help.

Postby cj7suthrnbelle » Tue Dec 16, 2003 04:54 am

by cj7suthrnbelle (5 Posts), Tue Dec 16, 2003 04:54 am

Hi. I just wanted to let you guys know I'm still here. I guess I've just been in hiding for the past 2 weeks. Just no energy to do anything anymore, and Xmas isn't making it any easier. Why should I celebrate the life of the person who took my baby's away?
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