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My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby angelkat » Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:01 pm

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:01 pm

This will be DH and my 2nd year speaking to new residents on what life is like in the NICU, Being a parent in the NICU, and losing a child. I always get so emotional when it comes to this speach because I want them to know from the heart to please treat the parents with respect and understand their concerns as they are scared to death, they don't know what is going on, and they hang on to each and every word that is said in hopes of their sweet little baby being able to come home one day.

Ben and I always feel so honored to be asked to speak to the residents as even if we can help one doctor go out of his way to help a family then we have done our job!.

Better get started on my thought process now, I only have one week to get ready... Wonder what they are serving for lunch this year[;)]







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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby taras mom » Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:26 pm

by taras mom (841 Posts), Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:26 pm

You and Ben will be great, T![:D]

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby arj » Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:50 pm

by arj (1251 Posts), Mon Jul 12, 2004 09:50 pm

That is so great that you and Ben are doing that T! Bedside manner and empathy for the parents is almost equal to diagnostic ability and medical treatment. I hope that they all soak in what you have to say and remember it when they're dealing with scared and sad parents.

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby josiah1112 » Tue Jul 13, 2004 05:54 am

by josiah1112 (1368 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 05:54 am

Oh, T! As I read your post I started to cry..
I'm so glad you and your DH are doing this!
I admire how strong you are. I still can't make
it through doctor's appointments without crying,
when they ask me for my story.
I would do the same if I had the opportunity,
even if I had to muster that last little bit
of strength and courage from within me!!
You will make a world of difference to so many
parents! Wonderful! Let us know how it goes!

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby denise » Tue Jul 13, 2004 07:14 am

by denise (5480 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 07:14 am

What an awesome thing to be doing! I really admire you as well for doing this as it has to be hard, but it is necessary! Like you said, even if one doctor changes thought processes, or whatever, when talking to parents, it is so worth it! Let us know how things went!![:D]

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby for faith » Tue Jul 13, 2004 10:02 am

by for faith (1749 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 10:02 am

T ~ That is just wonderful. So glad you are able to do this, how valuable for the doctors and for their patients. You are a God-send!!!

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby julie f » Tue Jul 13, 2004 10:04 am

by julie f (7993 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 10:04 am

T,

You are such a strong person. The compassion displayed by our NICU team was just wonderful and it was so helpful to us... I am so thankful that you will be helping other doctors to help us parents...

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby annes » Tue Jul 13, 2004 12:36 am

by annes (2527 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 12:36 am

Good Luck T, I do some public speaking for my job, but have never had to do that sort of emotional, personal talk, that takes a certain kind of brave! Those Dr.'s are very lucky to have you speak to them and share your personal lives with them. I know you will do a super job.[:)]

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby jenn » Tue Jul 13, 2004 02:58 pm

by jenn (2038 Posts), Tue Jul 13, 2004 02:58 pm

T,
What an honor! I'm jealous!
I hate to think how ignorant I was to think that that there was no way anyone there (NICU) that knew what it felt like other than the other parents there with me.
Though I was greatful for how nice we were treated by our main nurse, she treated us like it was her first day on the job, and she couldn't have explain everything to us more. While some others treated us like they were just there to do their job and earn a paycheck.
I'm thrilled to hear that you and your DH have been chosen to spead some light on this and give those young doc's some passion for their purpose.
So what are they serving for lunch? [;)]
Kidding, it's almost dinner time and I'm starving [:)]

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Re : My turn... From a parent to a doctor

Postby ann marie » Thu Jul 15, 2004 01:17 pm

by ann marie (1034 Posts), Thu Jul 15, 2004 01:17 pm

T,

What a wonderful opportunity. The impact of Katlyne's life continues to resonate. Let us know how it goes.

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