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we lost our baby

Postby e_allen » Tue Jul 27, 2004 02:27 pm

On Saturday, July 24th at about 5pm, I noticed that even after eating the baby didn’t move so my husband, Ethan, and I went to the hospital. The nurses proceeded to hook me up to do a non-stress test but after about 20 minutes trying, they couldn’t locate a heartbeat. An ultrasound was ordered and it was determined that our baby had died. Labor induction was started along with several medications to keep pain and my blood pressure under control. The doctor broke my water at about 5pm Sunday, July 25th and around 2 hours later our daughter, Janell Victory Allen, was born weighing 3 lbs 1.7 oz and 16.5 inches long. She was perfect and beautiful. We all got the time we needed to say our good-byes. It is thought that her cord was pinched as it was wrapped very tightly around her neck and three times around her leg. My husband and I are now recovering at our home, trying to figure out what we do now. We are already planning our next child, as in our hearts we know that it is the only way we can begin to feel better. This would have been our first baby and we are both devastated. Her body is being cremated and we plan to plant a tree in her ashes so that she can live on forever in the world like she will in our hearts. We understand that this was a freak accident and there was nothing anyone could have done to prevent it. Please, we ask you: live your lives full of love in memory of our daughter and never take what you have for granted.

Janell Victory due Sept. 23 - bed rest since 27 weeks - PIH

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby heatherbbb » Tue Jul 27, 2004 02:37 pm

I am so sorry! My heart breaks for you and your husband. I understand wanting another baby. I got pregnant two months after my son died. He had been in the NICU for 5 1/2 months. I'm now 3 months pregnant and very nervous, yet hopeful. Planting a tree is a wonderful way to honor Janell's memory. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I hope this forum will help you as you deal with your grief. I've been attending a local Support Group once a month for people who have lost babies. I've found the group very helpful. It helps you realize that you are not crazy as you go through the different stages of grief. Please let us know how you are doing from time to time.


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Due with baby # 2 Feb 1, 2005

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby jenn » Tue Jul 27, 2004 02:59 pm

Bear hugs and kisses.
There are not many times that I am left for a loss of words, but I believe this would be one of those times.
For my heart has just broken.

Prayers to youself, Ethan and Angel Janell.


Jennie (24)
Shad DH (29)

Jaidyn 1.24.01 (30 wkr)
2lb. 12oz.

Heavenly Angel:

Natalia Rosse
Due Thanksgiving day!

http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jaid/ (updated May 26th, u/s photos in J's gallery)

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby for faith » Tue Jul 27, 2004 03:31 pm

Liz ~ I am so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. I lost my daughter in January and this has been the hardest 6 months of my life. I am praying for peace for you as you begin your recovery. That is beautiful what you are doing with the tree.

We are beginning to TTC again and just the thought is scary. I hope you are able to meet with your dr to discuss your plans. Know that we are here for you when you need to talk.

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Tyler - 4 (36 wks, PIH)
Angel baby - 1/20/03 (11 wks)
Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC & Sepsis(preemie complications))

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby angelkat » Tue Jul 27, 2004 04:29 pm


I am so sorry for your loss. Please take your time to heal and the grief process is one that is a long and hard road but please know that we are all here for you!...

Sending you prayers of comfort and peace

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby josiah1112 » Tue Jul 27, 2004 05:24 pm

[V]I'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you.

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby tinalowe » Tue Jul 27, 2004 05:27 pm

Liz--I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the hardes thing in the world. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby tracey » Tue Jul 27, 2004 05:52 pm

Liz -- I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and precious Janell.

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angel Ila Elizabeth (02.06.04),
pea-in-the-pod, EDD 04.01.05

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby ann marie » Tue Jul 27, 2004 06:06 pm


I am so tremedously sorry for your loss. I am just shocked by your news. I am a loss for words. Just know that I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. Hugs and hugs,

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Re : we lost our baby

Postby bridget » Tue Jul 27, 2004 06:49 pm

Liz...I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your familly. I know there are many womenon this board who have traveled down this unthinkable road and can offer advice and much support.

I am so sorry.

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m/c 11/03, 05/04, 07/04
TTC #2 very soon

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