I definitly have names picked out after all the debating we went through until we found the name Indigo the last time. If its a boy: Shawn Douglas, if its a girl, Anna Grace(though we may need to find something a little more different for the girl name because we're afraid that the new baby would feel strange at some point because her sister had a really cool "different" name LOL)
I don't think I bought anything for the baby until about 31 wks and even then it was only a pack of onesies and a blankie. I wouldn't even let my friend throw me a baby shower until at least 32wks and even then I was so scared I might have to return all the gifts or something so I didn't remove any tags until the week she was born. Even then I was still very afraid but my practicality got the better of me[:)]
We didn't even get anything for her, i.e. crib and bedroom stuff, basinette and such until 3 days before she was born. Poor dh was up all night cramming to put it all together before the amnio. But all was okay and for the next pg I will probably still have the worries but at least I kind of know what to expect and we don't have to buy as much stuff.
Those of you with losses in the 20wk ranges I have no idea how you hold it together. I would be a complete basketcase, you are so strong to go with what you did and to be able to move on and try again. My four losses were all in the 1st trimester and though they were hard they were no where near the heartache and attachment you must have had. My prayers are with you all every day.
Indigo E. 11/20/03:37wks, PIH