Dumb Dumb Dumb

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby momathelete » Fri May 28, 2004 08:36 pm

T -
Many hugs to you. I am so sorry for the thoughtlessness and major screwups that have happened to you I hope your husband gives it to them good when he speaks to them on Tuesday.

BTW -On a different note....tell your husband THANKS from me for serving our country on this Memorial Day.

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby angelkat » Fri May 28, 2004 06:59 pm

Thanks Ladies....

Since Monday is a holiday they called and left a message that DH has to report on Tues. I told DH this is as bad as the time they asked me if I was still BFing (I said yes, I go to my daughter grave each and every night and BF her!)... Nasty I know but sometimes I just can't help myself.

I'll let you all know how things go... Thanks again ladies, it's so hard to say anything to people who do not understand. They tend to think I'm just being nasty when I get all uppie

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby julie f » Fri May 28, 2004 05:17 pm

Oh gosh Tracy, I am so sorry. After your DH is done with them, tell them to give me a call and I'll give them a peace of my mind too...


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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby josiah1112 » Thu May 27, 2004 03:13 pm

So sorry T!! All of this is like putting salt on
the wound. Let us know how this goes. I'm sure they
are going to feel so stupid. I kept
getting all sorts of baby things in the mail,
but the last straw was when a talent agency wrote
to me saying, - "Your child has been brought
to our attention." [}:)]

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby for faith » Thu May 27, 2004 10:16 am

So sorry, that is terrible!!! Several people in my OBs office asked me "how is the baby" when I went back for my check-up and it was devistating to explain what happened.

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby paljane8 » Thu May 27, 2004 09:22 am


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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby twolfgram » Thu May 27, 2004 09:04 am

That's ridiculous. I'd give them a piece of my mind! Why would they send a letter anyway, aren't vaccinations optional?

When I went in for my 6 week check after Erik died, the nurse at my OB clinic sid congratulations and asked if the baby was a boy or girl - I said HE was stillborn and of course got the apologies and all that - how could she not know that??

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby mada » Thu May 27, 2004 06:24 am

That is just horrible!! I cannot even imagine how insensitive these people are!! They, are going to feel so stupid that an arguement I am sure won't be neccessary....I am so sorry!!

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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby sweetiesuzy » Thu May 27, 2004 05:49 am

Oh T! I am so sorry that happened to you. Not that it is the same thing, but for months after Chloe died I would still receive coupons, baby items and gifts in the mail from different companies. It hurt. To have a letter wondering why she hasn't received her shots is just heartbreaking. I am so so sorry. I know you will address it appropriately and make sure it doesn't happen again!!!


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Re : Dumb Dumb Dumb

Postby taras mom » Thu May 27, 2004 01:40 am

IDIOTS![}:)] I like Allison's idea: Give Commander Fubar a piece of your mind. Angel-moms are not to be messed with.

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