by hfwarner3 (141 Posts), Sun Feb 13, 2005 11:29 am
Now that my wife is on bedrest, I have spent the weekend talking to friends and family who are willing to assist us, but I still have a large "gap" in coverage.
My children are a 6 year old daughter, a 3 year old son, and a 1 year old daughter. The oldest goes to school Monday through Friday 8 - 3. My son goes to pre-school Tuesday and Thursday 9 - 1. The youngest stays at home with her mom.
I have spoken to my employer and they are willing to "work with me" to make things work. I am a network engineer, so luckily I can do 80% of my work over the phone and across the internet. I should be able to make it work by only going in one day a week or two half-days.
I have a ride for my daughter to school in the morning, but no way home. I have no ride for my son. Most importantly, I have no one to care for my daughter.
My mother-in-law is going to come down on Fridays and spend all day. My mother is going to swap weekends with my in-laws.
Some very nice people from Church are going to bring us dinners during the week so I will not have to cook.
I really have two issues -
1) who to watch my wife and youngest daughter while I am at work, and
2) what to do when they hospitalize my wife.
We see the Perinatalogist tomorrow afternoon, so it could be as early as tomorrow that she is hospitalized, but the OB has already told us we "should be make arrangements to handle things once she is hospitalized and to be emotionally prepared that the baby could come early and spend time in the NICU." It sounds after it is a question of "when" with the hospitalization, not "if".
Does anyone have any good advice on how to juggle everything? I have looked into Antepartum Doulas, but there are none within 35 miles of my home. Should I consider college students? Contact the Immigration Services office of the Archdiocese and see if anyone is in need of immediate employment?
I really do not want my poor little daughter in daycare. While we have a couple thousand in savings, money is pretty tight with us, so my financial options are limited.
Thanks for your advice!