I wanted my dh to post a reply to your post, but he felt silly posting and didn't know what to write.
My dh came to appts when he could, but usually had to watch our other children. But when he was able to come, he kept track of the questions we had and the answers we were given. When I was in the hospital, he rarely left my side and was an advocate for my care. After delivery, he went between Miriam in the NICU and me, making sure all our needs were met. I was so sick and so weak, he had to take care of me A LOT. He was very loving and caring. He has always taken my health very seriously and worries when I am pg.
After the HELLP was diagnosed, we went straight to induction and delivery. Afterwards, my platelets continued to crash and I got more and more out of it. He felt like he had a ring side seat to watching me die.
Now, when we talk about the possibility of a future pg, he tells me he isn't nearly as concerned with the pre-e as he is with the HELLP. Ack! I mean, IMO, HELLP is SCARY, but pre-e is a lot more likely! But while he is concerned, it doesn't make him worry about getting pg again. Only the HELLP!
In other words, I have no idea what to tell you. I have a loving and giving dh who watches over me with a great amount of care. But even he doesn't seem to grasp the seriousness of pre-e. And he has been through it with me before, too! (One really air-headed nurse told him, while I was in the midst of getting severe pre-e, about a woman who had a stroke and was paralyzed AFTER delivery from pre-e. He was living for the "delivery" part that would make me healthy again. I could have strangled that woman!!!!)
Keep us posted on your pg and take care... Maybe your dh wouldn't mind checking in here once in a while...