by countrymom2e (134 Posts), Wed Mar 01, 2006 10:51 am
I feel a little funny posting here, but I'm hoping some of the other dads (and moms too) have some suggestions for how I can help my DH.
The short story - developed PIH then p-e with DS at 39 wks, delivered term, was on bedrest for a week post-partum due to the GH, which was then controlled with meds. Pregnancy was a breeze. This pg, I've had kidney stones, and a few scares with the baby that turned out to be nothing (risk of Trisomy 18, ruled out with amnio, and two incidents of heart rate issues that were determined to be fine once I had a NST). Now unfortunately I've been diagnosed with PIH again, this time at 27 wks, am on bedrest, and feeling generally not well.
To make matters harder on DH, we moved out of our antique home almost a year ago b/c DS tested high with lead... so we've been having our house renovated and are trying to wrap up things so we can get home. Every free minute he gets he is up at the house trying to push along the project. We have a lot of $$ pressures from the project too. Plus he works 50 hrs a week for his primary job, and about 10 hrs a week at his second job. He is really stressed out, exhausted, and now with me on bedrest, he can barely cope. Both of us feel like everything is falling apart.
Sorry this is so long! Anyway my question to you is, normally I would be trying to help by taking things off of his plate, taking care of our son, cooking healthy meals for him... but those are all things I cannot do now. When things became overwhelming for you, what helped? What can I do to relieve some of this pressure from his shoulders?
Thanks all --