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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby fishologist » Sat Apr 07, 2007 09:44 am

by fishologist (8 Posts), Sat Apr 07, 2007 09:44 am

thanks for the replys. i told my wife about this forum and she wanted to read the replys. she liked all the info i was recieving. so she replyied so dont worry about replying to me. but i tell ya i think she could worry herself to problem ( is this hypertension) next app is monday with the her dr.
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby fishologist » Sat Apr 07, 2007 10:22 am

by fishologist (8 Posts), Sat Apr 07, 2007 10:22 am

i think she is 37 or 38 weeks
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby fishologist » Sat Apr 14, 2007 08:33 pm

by fishologist (8 Posts), Sat Apr 14, 2007 08:33 pm

well a update
went in last wed and she said there was no reason to pull the baby except a comfort thing, so me and my wife talked it over and we will go until he comes naturaly, she is getting to the part where she wishes she could be induced
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby annegarrett » Sun Apr 15, 2007 01:31 am

by annegarrett (2525 Posts), Sun Apr 15, 2007 01:31 am

For my part, and forgive me because I am going to be very blunt, there is no such thing as mild preeclampsia. From what you say her numbers are--she has preeclampsia. Once she has any proteinuria--it means her kidneys are damaged.

With preeclampsia, you can have bad, very bad, really really bad and catastropic. And it can go from bad to catastrophic faster than you can get her to the hospital. That's why most doctors (at least the ones I would go to) prefer to deliver when the patient is at least 36 weeks and has the diagnosis. Their thought (and mine) is why wait--why risk the worst case scenario.

My job, as I see it, is to be sure you know what's on the line. Chances are good everything will be fine--but the only things that can go wrong now are very important things--your baby's health and safety and your wife's.
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby deerhart » Sun Apr 15, 2007 01:12 pm

by deerhart (3282 Posts), Sun Apr 15, 2007 01:12 pm

I am sorry but you CANNOT worry yourself into hypertension and PE. Yes stress can cause you to have problems, but the really that is consistent long term extreme stress (we are talking years here not days). Usually there is an underlying problem that stress just exaggerates (ie like hypertension).

If your doctor is having your wife lay down to lower her BP, she is therefore getting false low readings. Since 99% of people spend 2/3rds to 3/4 of the day NOT laying down, her BP is the 140/90 2/3rds of the day and only low when she's laying down (probably asleep on her side). Even sitting with your legs out will keep your BP elevated to the higher number. So regardless of the fact that is does eventually drop, your wife's BP IS going up upon activity, sitting up etc.. and therefore it will go up when she does these things around the house. I remember tracking my BP on bedrest. One 2 minute trip to the bathroom meant I had 17-22 minutes of elevated BP, thus 2 trips every hour pretty much meant the benefit I was getting from resting was being counteracted by the time it took to get my BP to drop below danger levels.

If her BP is up that high, the damage is being done. Even if its just a 15 minutes a day, it IS doing damage. And with a 400 protein count, she already has some damage to her kidneys done and typically its likely to get worse before it gets better (though PE can stall, reverse itself and then come on with a vengeance.. thats pretty much what it did with me my first week of bedrest!)
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby rerskine » Wed Apr 18, 2007 03:29 am

by rerskine (10 Posts), Wed Apr 18, 2007 03:29 am

Hello Fishologist,
My wife and I are going through our second pregnancy and your situation sounds very similar to our first except you are already past 37 and in full term land. Our daughter was induced at 35 3/7. Five days prior to that my wife's BP shot up from 105-110/65-70 to 130's/high 80's. We had just done a 24 hour with negative protein (like as in 0-5 low) she was not swollen (edema), no pain, no headache, baby was a bit small, but was tracking the same growth patter she had for the entire pregnancy. All good. Over the next four days BP up but would go down when she rested, 24 hour came back in the mid 300's, she gained about 6 pounds, and when they did another ultrasound amniotic fluid was ok but she had not grown at all. They induced immediately, and by the time she was born my wife protein was really high and the delivery was rough because they lost the fetal heart rate and had to attach the internal one. It all turned out fine and Isabel spent all of twenty minutes in the NICU, but it progressed really fast. Currently, she is 37 3/7 with our son and just has high BP. I don't want to scare anyone, but PE is spooky. I would suggest that you demand (in a kind forceful tone) that they measure Gavin's size. I would recommend that if he is falling off at all from his growth pattern, you may want to induce now when you can be in the driver's seat as much as possible.

One other note, the measurement with the ultrasound are really not that reliable +/-3 weeks or so, but if you wife has high BP 400 protein and edema, I think the +/-3 weeks becomes less speculative and more of an indicator that you need to seriously consider taking action. The other's on this forum may correct me if I am wrong, as I am not a medical doctor, but this was our experience,so I hope it helps.

On another note, have they said that your wife will have magnesium IV during labor. It is usually standard to reduce the chances of seizures from PE. My wife, and I kid you not, still says to this day that the IV's were worse than the delivery. She was truly miserable. By the way hand massages and foot massages did wonders and still do to help my wife relax.

We are going in to the Doctor's tomorrow and even though my wife's BP was 114/80 tonight, I can almost guarentee you that she will have a high reading tomorrow and we will be at Labor and delivery tomorrow afternoon. Best of luck to you adn your wife and son.

Ohh yeah, ask the doctor's to explain the delivery room team and procedure, because it can be pretty weird if the NICU people come in probably 3 or 4 people you may not have ever seen before and they wisk in with a crazy array of equipment, poke and prod etc. They are great but it can be pretty fast paced. Also talk with your wife about what you should do if, and I emphasize a BIG IF because you are past 37 weeks, but if they have to take Gavin out of the room for observation, does she want you to go with Gavin stay with her, etc. Regardless, have a camera when you go or stay, That first family photo on Mom's chest is a great bonding moment, but it screams by. Try to stay as calm as you can and ask them to explain the monitor so you can help your wife as she goes through contractions. Tell her the Fetal heart rate, distance between contractions, severity of contractions. I stared at the monitor for almost 20 hours and started to see patterns that when I told her the patterns helped her relax.
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Re : how worried should i be help please

Postby blythe » Sun Apr 29, 2007 02:40 pm

by blythe (3060 Posts), Sun Apr 29, 2007 02:40 pm

I've been away for awhile but wanted to see if Mom and Baby are healthy? Come back and share your birth story!
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