by jmom08 (486 Posts), Wed Aug 18, 2010 06:24 pm
Hi all -Ã¢â‚¬â€œ baby is 2 months old and doing well. I have missed being on the forum, but have needed those 2 Ã¢â‚¬â€œ 4 hours of sleep too much to get online! :)
This is long, but I have a question about visitors, vaccinations, and family politics. Per the CDC guidelines and our pediatricianÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s recommendation, DH and I have been making sure everyone who comes in close contact with the baby is up to date on the pertussis vaccine -Ã¢â‚¬â€œ my parents, the babysitter who comes to visit with our older son, etc. We are having trouble, though, with my father-in-law and his girlfriend. Both have a fear of needles, and want to come visit (by plane, via large international airport) without getting the vaccine. DH sent them several recent pertussis articles, and now FIL may reluctantly get the shot, but says that his girlfriend still wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t, and he still wants to bring her with him when he visits.
WeÃ¢â‚¬â„¢re trying to be understanding, but we feel that our babyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s health comes first. We double checked with the pediatrician, and he said he wouldnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t recommend that they visit without the pertussis vaccine until baby is 6 months old. We asked if there are any other vaccines we should request/require that they get, and he recommended the seasonal flu shot.
Has anyone else had this problem -Ã¢â‚¬â€œ any tips/thoughts? We plan to hold firm & follow the pediatricianÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s advice, but it may cause hard feelings, and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m wondering how to mitigate, or if thereÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s something I could maybe suggest re: their fear of needles, since they want to see the baby so badly. They had wanted to come for Thanksgiving, but this means they wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t be able to see the baby until just before Christmas, and possibly not at all this year if they wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t get the flu vaccine (I think they're both too old to be able to take flumist). They might fly here anyway to stay with DHÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s brother at Christmas (lives an hour from us), and would want to see DH and my older son Ã¢â‚¬â€œ- hopefully IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m just being paranoid, but I could see them putting pressure on DH to have me & baby stay at home alone so they can see DH & my older son on Christmas Eve/Day (something similar happened when we visited them Xmas three years ago, they talked DH into going to family holiday events & leaving me with our older son). TheyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve already started talking about their visit, and I guess those postpartum hormones have me worried.
Thanks in advance for any advice... I hope everyone else is doing well! :)