by gordon k (113 Posts), Sun Jul 17, 2005 05:07 pm
It's not paranoia; the only thing you hafta be afraid of is the stuff you don't know. Be honest with you dr., tell her your concerns, and ask the questions that you have. Your physician should not leave you wondering about what's going on and what you should be doing. If you don't feel that you are being adequately informed, you may want to re-evaluate the relationship with your current physician. Your concern and angst will go away with knowledge; your doctor should be providing you with that knowledge. If I were you, I'd probably ask your wife's OB: "Shouldn't we take the bp? Shouldn't we be watching out for signs and symptoms? Why aren't you as concerned about a recurrence?"
My wife's doctor could see it in our faces when we had added questions, and always wanted to make sure that we left with peace of mind. We trusted him, he knew it, to us it made the patient/doctor relationship stronger when everything was out in the open. (In my opinion, this is where the difference between regular OB/GYNs and perinatologists set in.)
If you don't have an appt. scheduled for the next couple of days and have questions, I'd go ahead and call. Hearing much advice and stories can be overbearing at times, and I know you don't want your wife to feel your anxiety. For me, it really was reassuring my wife, trusting her dr., and asking him straight up questions. A good dr. will not take offense and open conversation will strengthen the relationship. Our perinatologist and his nurse always managed our anxieties as well as any physical concerns, thus all anxieties were at a minimum.
I know that it's tough because you worry about your wife, but knowledge, vigilance, and keeping all lines of communication open helps. You can both help each other watch out for anything, and reassure each other. Hope this helps.