I'm sorry about all the added stress Jennifer. The anxiety of people finding out, or having it come out and then having to explain everything can be overwhelming. My husband Frank and I are currently working on making an appointment with a grief counselor. I've had similar advice from some of the other ladies here as well. One person (I can't remember who) said her counselor helped her prepare for certain events like friends' baby showers, new births, etc.
My husband and I are planning on burying our son on September 17th, which is his due date. And we're having some kind of anxiety about dealing with that. And I also have to return to work in a few weeks. I've had a lot of patients coming by and asking about me and how the baby is doing (per my co-workers).
I know that we are suppose to cry and let out our feelings when we can. But when we get back into the real world we have to be professionals at our job. Hard doesn't begin to explain the position we're in.
I don't know what your feelings are about getting counseling, but it's a route my husband and I opted to take, versus just dealing with it on our own. We are planning to TTC in a few months and we'd like to go into it knowing that we've mourned for Blue and "adjusted appropriately"...whatever that means. Hugs all around.