I thought so. Our stories are so similar. Our Olivia was born and died in Sept. 2009 also, at 23+2, though she only lived about 20 minutes so didn't do any NICU time.
About trying again, first, they'll need to do some testing to try to figure out why you haven't gotten pregnant...like are you ovulating, what are your hormone levels, test your hubby's sperm, etc. In many cases, it can be an easy fix. There are still lots of options between fertility treatments and IVF. I was on medicine to help me ovulate, they were closely monitoring me to make sure there weren't too many eggs being released, and we ended up doing an IUI (insemination-which is as easy as a pap smear) the cycle I got pregnant just because I was getting so frustrated with failed cycles, I wanted to be more aggressive. I did discuss the possibility of needing IVF with two different MFM's, and while they preferred for me to hopefully get pregnant without that, they both were okay with it. So...I don't know that I would necessarily listen to that OB. (Especially if she's making you try for a year, that's pretty crappy. I mean, it's standard, but considering you've had a loss and everything, there's no reason they can't do basic hormone testing and stuff now. You might want to seriously consider getting an opinion from another doctor. If you've had 6 cycles of ovulating and well-timed intercourse (at least a couple times in your fertile period), there is no reason for making you continue to try without doing some simple bloodwork tests, etc. at least that's my opinion on that.)
I'm glad you are having a better day today. Hang in there.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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