by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Tue Feb 22, 2011 04:14 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I had early onset preeclampsia and went into the hospital at 28 weeks. Most of my friends found out about it because we had to cancel my baby shower. I started posting mainly to keep people updated and for prayers, etc. I delivered via emergency c-section at 30 weeks. My son was given a very good prognosis, however he ended up dying from respiratory distress a few days after birth. Because my son's doctors had been so optimistic, we did put up some facebook posts and even some photos of him. When he died we had to make an announcement because people were still making comments over the birth and sending gifts and flowers and things. It was really difficult and to top it off, I had several friends who were expecting around the same time and had to see all of those women deliver their children and go home with them. I still can't even stand it and cry a lot over it. I so desperately want to be happy for these people, but it's not fair. I have tried not going on facebook or even "hiding" all those people who are expecting or just had babies, but it's still hard because then I feel bad for not being supportive towards them. It's a difficult position to be in and I am so sorry that you are having to go through it.
Christa (25) & J (26)
Mommy to:Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 daysNoah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!
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