Do you have...

[cmccaffrey]

friends who continuously bring up other friends pregnancies in your presence. Like as if nothing ever happened to you... as if you never even had or lost a baby. My friend has been doing this quite a bit and this morning I got a text birth announcement about a friend of hers. I know it is meant as a nice gesture, but to me it feels like she's shoving them in my face. I want to hear of successful pregnancies, but I want to find out in my own time. I don't need a personal assistant to inform me of all this information. It's annoying more than anything. I don't feel like she's doing it to protect me... almost like she's throwing it in my face..."see heres another awesome pregnancy, but your baby still died and it sucks to be you" kind of thing. I can't even handle it. I have been doing so good, but these constant little reminders from her are making me more depressed.

I'm so not getting out of bed today...I'm just going to wallow in my loss.

[m]

Have you told your friend how difficult it is for you to hear about pregnancies and births? Maybe wait until you're having a better day and send her an email and tell her that you appreciate her friendship at this sad time in your life but you need to not hear about other people's babies for a while? After my loss I had some people in my life who were great and really seemed to understand what I needed, and some others that I just had to tell to back off, or to please not give me any more news of babies. Some people are just totally clueless and have to be told. Most people have good intentions, and your friend probably does too. But unless they have suffered a loss, they have no way of understanding what you're going through.

Some days you just have to wallow and hope for a better day tomorrow!

[jean]

Yep, and everyone around me seems to be pregnant or have a baby right now. It's absolutely miserable.

[cmccaffrey]

@Jean----isn't it so ANNOYING! I am truly happy for those people just pissed that I can't be them. It's jealousy more than anything... Jealous that my pregnancy with my son didn't work out the way it should have. errrrr

@m----yeah... I think I will have to say something to her because it's been going on for a while. I know she is not being intentionally insensitive, but its really upsetting and totally throws me back into my depression. I need more time before I will be okay hearing about other people's babies and pregnancies... it's just too hard right now. Is that wrong?

[m]

No, it's not wrong at all!! Take a look at this topic and you will see that you're very normal:
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