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Postby cmccaffrey » Tue Mar 08, 2011 04:49 pm

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Tue Mar 08, 2011 04:49 pm

i have two friends giving birth this week and i am just so emotionally frustrated... knowing that everything will work out makes me happy for them, but makes me so emotional that I was in their shoes and everything turned out wrong and that I might never have an opportunity to have another sweet precious baby. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: emotionally exhausting

Postby m » Tue Mar 08, 2011 08:21 pm

by m (140 Posts), Tue Mar 08, 2011 08:21 pm

I know how you feel. It's been two years since my loss and it is still hard for me to hear about other people who seem to have it so much easier. But, it's not as hard as it was at first. It does get better.
DS 2/5/09 - 2/13/09; severe PE at 28 weeks
DD March 2010; PIH, preterm labor at 36 weeks, 10 days NICU
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Re: emotionally exhausting

Postby kerisue » Tue Mar 08, 2011 09:08 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue Mar 08, 2011 09:08 pm

It's so hard balancing wanting all good things for them, but wondering why you yourself had it so difficult and ended up with empty arms. I still struggle with resentment of some ladies. It's also hard when the baby bliss is shoved in your face. (NOT by anyone here, I'm talking about people in my "real" life)
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
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Re: emotionally exhausting

Postby cmccaffrey » Wed Mar 09, 2011 00:03 am

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Wed Mar 09, 2011 00:03 am

thanks for responding... i feel so guilty for these emotions, but it makes me feel better knowing i am not the only one.
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Christa (25) & J (26)
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

learn more about our story... http://tinyurl.com/7a979vy
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Re: emotionally exhausting

Postby m » Wed Mar 09, 2011 01:31 pm

by m (140 Posts), Wed Mar 09, 2011 01:31 pm

You are absolutely not the only one!! Did you see this similar topic? viewtopic.php?f=14&t=41593
DS 2/5/09 - 2/13/09; severe PE at 28 weeks
DD March 2010; PIH, preterm labor at 36 weeks, 10 days NICU
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Re: emotionally exhausting

Postby christina89 » Wed Mar 09, 2011 02:19 pm

by christina89 (346 Posts), Wed Mar 09, 2011 02:19 pm

I feel the same way :( I am currently pregnant again but it's been soo hard. Both of my best friends have had there baby in the last 6 weeks. and my bestbest friend developed PE at 36 weeks and delivered at 39. I was worried about her as well. But baby and her are healthy. But it still hurts me sooo much to see all these new babys and beautiful pregnant bellys that arent having any troubles. As wonderful as it is for them. I feel like it should happen for me. Its been a long journey since losing my son, I just pary for a better outcome this time around
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