I was the same way when I lost my son. My husband was more reluctant to try immediately. He was still dealing with the trauma of almost losing me as well. So it took a while for him to become comfortable with it (6 months or so). I was on fertility friend daily, multiple times even. I even convinced my doctor to help me speed things up and gave me Clomid. After two empty cycles, I conceived on my own.
In hindsight, waiting for husband to get ready, and 3 cycles of trying was worth the wait. It really helped put things in perspective, properly deal with my grief (so that I was sure I didn't want a baby to replace the one I lost, but because I was truly ready), and to help my body physically heal from the ordeal. Living in the waiting period, however, was absolute torture.
I have to say, right when I gave up on temping, charting, cervical fluid hunting was when I got pregnant.
Jasmin: Severe PE/HELLP and delivered at 24+6 & PCOS (29) Hubby Bubby, Frank (29) Baby Blue
stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenoxhttp://www.ehd.org/pregnancy-calendar.php?id=18192