tough time with Mother's Day

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby fineolin » Wed May 04, 2011 06:37 pm

I am so glad to see this thread. I am feeling the same way. Last year I announced to everyone on Mother's day that I was pregnant. I was exactly 12 weeks at the time. I was so happy. I felt so blessed. I feel so angry and alone right now. I am dreading this Sunday. I have made the decision that I will only call my mother and wish her a happy mother's day. She lives in Florida, so I can only give her a phone call. I just cannot bear to call my friends and family on this day. I am sorry, but, I feel that I am entitled to be selfish. I am not going to feel bad about not calling others. Its bad enough I do not know what I am going to do with myself. Its not like I can go to a restaurant or even watch TV. This whole thing, just SUCKS!!! I am so mad that I could scream. AHAHAHAH!!! OK, I feel better. Thank goodness I can come here and express my feelings.
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Miscarriage at 8 weeks (2006)
Had to terminate pregnancy at 22.5 weeks, July 2010 , due to Pre-e.
Miss my baby girl, Hailey rose everyday. I will never give up.
Pregnant again, due in July. Dear God, I leave it in your hands. I feel so blessed.
Miscarried at 8.5 weeks. Devastated and Sad.

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Wed May 04, 2011 06:27 pm

Flori,I felt the same way until I read it from you.yes you do deserve to be called a mother.Gracie will always be your baby and you her mommy no matter what. xoxo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Wed May 04, 2011 06:23 pm

Last mothers day my baby was just a week old. I was so hopeful of him getting well and coming home.I got many cards and gifts like baby boy charms and his initials. I sat in that nicu mothers day and it was so surreal.You are not alone,I have been having a very emotional week as well so far. I am so sorry for your pain,I know you miss Millie I know in our hearts we should all be with our sweet babies. It is very hard each day and each holiday but this one mothers day to people like us that lost their first and only baby is just painful. I am trying to figure out something to do to lift my spirits that day. I am thinking of you all and our babies. xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby flori » Wed May 04, 2011 04:15 pm

You're definitely not the only one, Kerisue. Seeing the Mother's Day balloons at the grocery store made me teary-eyed the other day. It's also rough seeing all of the commercials for Mother's Day gifts or gifts ideas with little kids giving their mommies presents. I was also planning to have my baby shower this Saturday, thinking it'd be fun to celebrate the whole weekend.

Last night my husband and I were out for a walk and he told me that his mom asked if he was going to do anything for me for Mother's Day. He said he was. I had to stop walking because I was crying so hard. I feel like I don't deserve to be called a mother. :(
Flori, 30
Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby cmccaffrey » Wed May 04, 2011 03:54 pm

I am right there with you. We announced our pregnancy a few weeks before mothers day to our parents last year, so we got all sorts of little books and cards. This year will seem so unfair and lonely. My husband is out of town too and our whole family lives out of state... I don't know what I am going to do with myself. I guess I will go to church and then go to sleep until Monday when DH comes home. One of my friends is about to deliver her baby (she is also naming her baby Mason)... I bet she will have her baby on Mothers Day and that will be like salt in the wounds. Sorry... I should be more uplifting, but I am pretty bitter when I spend so much time alone. I know we are mothers... just no one else can see us that way because our babies are out of sight and out of their minds.
Christa (25) & J (26)
Mommy to:
Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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tough time with Mother's Day

Postby kerisue » Wed May 04, 2011 03:17 pm

I have been having a bad week missing Millie a lot and just realized that it's probably because of Mother's Day coming up this weekend. I came across the card my mother gave me last Mother's Day (little did I know then that I was going to give birth in a month!). The card said, "just think how much we'll have to celebrate next mother's day!" Well next mother's day is this mother's day and instead of celebrating with everyone else I'm sad and without my baby who should be a happy healthy 7 mos. old (had she been born when she should have been). Yes, I know I'm a mother regardless, but I'm a childless mother with not much to celebrate. Am I the only one who is struggling with this?
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed


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