by sarahkm (86 Posts), Fri May 31, 2013 09:23 pm
Wow, a lot has changed since I wrote that post about adoption! I am now 7 months pregnant and doing very well. Absolutely no signs of preeclampsia yet. They plan to have me deliver before my due date to make sure things don't go haywire again. My kidney numbers are very close to normal now due to being pregnant and my blood pressure is controlled with a very low dose of BP meds.
We were still with the same adoption agency when I got pregnant and are now on their "inactive" list. Thankfully they have a new staff and are becoming much busier with birthmothers due to some good marketing efforts. It is an independent agency in the Chicagoland area. We chose them due to knowing people at church who used them and they had a very good reputation at that time (6 years ago). Since being listed the staff at the agency has completely changed twice. We have always wanted at least 2 kids, so we may go back after our son in born in August and look closer at special needs international China adoption.
Costs vary between agencies, but to give you an rough idea...I think we would have ended up putting out around $25,000 in the end.
I don't know if you've been to any seminars or information sessions about domestic adoption, but completely educating yourself about it is a must. Research each agency and go to several information sessions. It was a rigorous process for us to be accepted and then there is all the paperwork before being put on the list of potential adoptive parents. The agency had us take personality tests, go through 2 or more interviews, etc., etc.
I hope that helps! I would also consider getting a second opinion about whether or not to get pregnant again! I wish we started TTC again more than 2 years ago! Have you talked with a Maternal Fetal Medicine Specialist? Many who had HELLP and went on to have successful pregnancies are on these forums.
Mother to Nathanael James born still 12/31/2006 at 38 weeks. Class I HELLP sydrome, placental abruption, acute kidney failure.
Expecting again-due date August 16, 2013 (Folic Acid, LDA, Prenatal vitamins, BP meds, Vitamin D, Slow release Iron)
Elias Nathanael born healthy 07/28/2013 at 37 weeks 2 days, 5#11oz. No signs of HELLP or preeclampsia! Tear noticed in placenta after delivery.