tough time with Mother's Day

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby rosemary » Sun May 08, 2011 07:09 pm

Thinking of all of you today...and your precious little ones. Wishing you peace and healing. (((HUGS)))
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Momma to Kayleigh 8/25/88 - 36 weeks
Elliott 8/29/04 - lost at 20 weeks due to severe PE/HELLP
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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby jean » Sun May 08, 2011 03:37 pm

Thank you kerisue *hugs*
Our first son was born and passed in Feb of 2010. Born at 29 weeks due to HELLP and passed due to NEC. We miss him every day. :~(

Our second son was born at 39 weeks gestation in Nov of 2011. No HELLP or pre-e! Took LDA starting at week 12 and went off of it at week 38!

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby kerisue » Sun May 08, 2011 01:04 pm

I lit this candle for us today. Won't make us feel any better, but a small token anyway. It will stay lit for 48 hours from right now.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/mes ... d=13302440
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby Mouschin » Sun May 08, 2011 09:00 am

This is my first Mother's Day ever and my daughter is not here to celebrate it with me. She was born still 3 months ago today, so its a double whammy. I have found the days leading up to today, and today extrodinarily difficult. All of the TV commercials, stores and facebook posts are enough to send me to tears. Everyone says I am a mother, which I agree I am, but it feels incredibly hollow without my darling girl.

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby flori » Sat May 07, 2011 05:11 pm

I'm not too sure if Mother's Day is to blame or not, but yesterday I completely fell apart. I cried almost all evening. Up until then I had tried to stifle my tears and not think about things but I finally allowed myself to do so yesterday. I was left physically exhausted but somehow relieved. Today is more of the same. The guilt/loneliness/feelings of failure are all hitting me pretty hard again. In the middle of my tearfest the funeral home called to inform me that Gracie's death certificate is ready to be picked up. Get this, she said they're open tomorrow if I want to come by. I can't imagine a better way to spend my first Mother's Day.

My MIL is taking her mother to dinner and she invited me and dh. We will go, but I'm sure I'm going to burst into tears at some point during the meal.

(((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) to all the mommies out there.
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Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby miamibunnie » Sat May 07, 2011 04:57 pm

I know the feeling...it was really hard for me to celebrate Mothers day last year! :(
Lisette 37 Hubby 37
Lisette 36 / Luis 36
1996 25 weeker due to Eclampsia with seizures daughter alive today 15 yrs old " Julyzah Caridad"
2010 23 weeker due to severe preeclampsia my angel left us

2011/27/July we beat preeclampsia and made it to 36.5 weeks 6lbs 1oz baby girl "Kendall Lauren " pe-free just bp started acting up.
Thanks to God, my doctor, Lovenox and Lda.

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby jean » Sat May 07, 2011 04:27 pm

I am having a HORRIBLE time as well. Today just confirmed that I CANNOT be around babies. I have avoided them for the past year and a half. Today I was stuck in a store b/c my mom and I ran into a friend of hers with her daughter and her baby....I was so uncomfortable, I wanted to run away, and they didn't talk about him, but just being there...I couldn't handle it..I thought about excusing myself but didn't want to be rude. I toughed it out...while they had baby things in their shopping basket I had a memorial cross in mine. As soon as the conversation was done I fell apart. People can't understand that I just can't handle it. I'm fine when I'm not around other babies. Oh, and in closing they said "Happy Mother's Day", which I'm sure was aimed at my mom...but I just took the whole thing horribly. That's like a knife in the heart...happy mother's day...mother's day kills me...
Our first son was born and passed in Feb of 2010. Born at 29 weeks due to HELLP and passed due to NEC. We miss him every day. :~(

Our second son was born at 39 weeks gestation in Nov of 2011. No HELLP or pre-e! Took LDA starting at week 12 and went off of it at week 38!

http://findingtherainbowconnection.blogspot.com/

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby uncskristy » Fri May 06, 2011 09:34 am

I am glad to see this thread as well. I am having a hard time right now too between Mother's Day and what would have been Cooper's first birthday. Last Mother's Day, I was clueless that I was developing PE and what was about to happen two weeks later. Its so unfair. I am so ready for June to get here.
Kristy
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby m » Thu May 05, 2011 11:24 pm

I agree with joker. Even with my one year old, Mother's Day makes me sad. People expect me to celebrate and I hate having to explain that I'm not going to do anything. I wish the whole thing would go away, but it's everywhere. I will be glad when it's over.
DS 2/5/09 - 2/13/09; severe PE at 28 weeks
DD March 2010; PIH, preterm labor at 36 weeks, 10 days NICU

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Re: tough time with Mother's Day

Postby joker » Thu May 05, 2011 11:01 am

It's been almost 4 years since I lost Abby and I do now have my earthside girl too, but Mother's Day is still hard. I find that I just don't really feel like celebrating, that I would rather stay in bed and just watch mind numbing tv. Tune it out is what I like to do, but that just isn't so easy. Big hugs.
Jen-type 1 diabetic
Abigail-born still June 29, 2007; PE/HELLP @ 18 weeks
Alison-4/17/2009; PE/HELLP @ 34 weeks


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