by angieb (1194 Posts), Sun May 29, 2011 11:15 am
What m said (well, her doctor) bears repeating and i wish everyone who has had a loss had someone to tell them that, for me it was actually the ultrasound tech. but seriously, it wasn't your fault. You did nothing wrong to cause this--it was not your weight or pcos or forgetting your prenatal vitamins a few times or anything that you did or didn't do. There's no rhyme or reason to it, you did not cause it and probably couldn't have prevented it. It was not something in your control. That's one thing to hear and understand but took awhile- a long long while, like a year- for me to truly accept and let go of that guilt. Even if you can't really believe it in your heart yet, keep telling yourself anyway.
For a long time, even moments now, it's hard to see little girls, especially around the age our daughter should be. Hang in there. Thinking of you guys.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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